Are You a Filler or a Dipper?
You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a
really large cup, only larger, it is an invisible cup. Everyone has one.
It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get
along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very
favourable things which made you want to be good to people for a week?
At that time, your cup was full.
Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him,
knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss,
giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation,
or, perhaps more important, listening to
him.
Let’s just say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of
thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a
lady’s skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. “Bright Eyes”
across the table says, “You upset that glass of chocolate milk.” I made a
mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He just got his
dipper in my cup!
“The mark of true humanity is giving more than you get. By giving, we really receive! ” – Leslie Choudhury
Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone’s life in order to fill their cup.
Have an Awesome week ahead!
Leslie Choudhury – Int’l Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Author
Serious fun for serious business
www.impactfulpresentations.com
www.directivecommunication.com
www.choudhury-consultancy.com
www.lesliechoudhury.com
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CEO – Dreamz Image International
Director – Directive Communication International
Associate Director – ADMC Pte Ltd
CEO – LC International ( BVI)
65 96347354
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You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a
really large cup, only larger, it is an invisible cup. Everyone has one.
It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get
along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very
favourable things which made you want to be good to people for a week?
At that time, your cup was full.
A cup can be filled by a lot of things that happen. When a person
speaks to you, recognizing you as a human being, your cup is filled a
little. Even more if he calls you by name, especially if it is the name
you like to be called. If he compliments you on your dress or on a job
well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be a
million ways to raise the level in another’s cup.
Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him,
knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss,
giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation,
or, perhaps more important, listening to
him.
When one’s cup is full of this emotional support, one can express warmth
and friendliness to people. But, remember, this is a theory about a cup
and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their dippers
in your cup. This, too, can be done in a million ways.
Let’s just say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of
thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a
lady’s skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. “Bright Eyes”
across the table says, “You upset that glass of chocolate milk.” I made a
mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He just got his
dipper in my cup!
Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible about it,
only to have someone tell him about the known mistake (“Red pen”
mentality! - Tendency to only correct and point out mistakes in
others!)
Cups are filled and cups are emptied ? Emptied many times because
people don’t really think about what are doing. When a person’s cup is
emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a person
whose cup is empty, “That is a really nice tie you have,” and he may
reply in a very irritated, defensive manner.
Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who
seem to have holes in their cups. When a person has a hole in his cup,
he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their cups.
This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his cup because he
keeps losing.
The story of our lives is the interplay of the cup the dipper.
Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the cup and the dipper is
that when you fill another’s cup it does not take anything out of your
own cup. The level in our own cup gets higher when we fill another’s,
and, on the other hand, when we dip into another’s cup we do not fill
our own … we lose a little.
“The mark of true humanity is giving more than you get. By giving, we really receive! ” – Leslie Choudhury
For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the cup of another
and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfilment,
and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some
reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds “fake” or the
other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is “brown-nosing.”
Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone’s life in order to fill their cup.
Have an Awesome week ahead!Leslie Choudhury – Int’l Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Author
Serious fun for serious business
www.impactfulpresentations.com
www.directivecommunication.com
www.choudhury-consultancy.com
www.lesliechoudhury.com
http://twitter.com/LeslieChoudhury
CEO – Dreamz Image International
Director – Directive Communication International
Associate Director – ADMC Pte Ltd
CEO – LC International ( BVI)
65 96347354
http://www.communicationgurus.net/Next_Speaker_communicaton.php
http://www.lesliechoudhury.com/what-people-say.html
Connect to me on http://www.facebook.com/leslie.choudhury