tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29664189542442532562024-03-14T01:27:22.107-07:00BooYaa !!!Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-67955527396850640102014-04-13T21:00:00.000-07:002014-04-13T21:00:18.361-07:00Quality of Life depends on....<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<strong><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Who you spend time with</span></strong><span class="style2001"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;"> impacts on your quality of life! Examine
the scope and influences that impact your life. This includes who you listen
to, who you learn from, the books you read and TV programs you watch.</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="style2001"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Your future
will be the same as your past unless you examine your quality of life. By this
I’m not referring to the place you live, car you drive the chattels you’ve
gathered or the stocks and shares you have accumulated.</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="style2001"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">To examine
your quality of life, listen to your body. </span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="style2001"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Is your
thinking excessive? </span></span><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;"><br />
<span class="style2001">Does your body carry anxiety?</span><br />
<span class="style2001">Do you have harmony in your heart?</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="style2001"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">*There are
times when we feel little flutters in our tummy. These little flutters are
usually short term and relate to good stress, eustress, </span></span><span class="ft"><i><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">the <b>definition</b> of stress given by endocrinologist Dr Hans
Seyle, for</span></i></span><span class="st1"><i><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;"> the stress
evoked by any positive emotion or event. </span></i></span><i><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;"><br />
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</span></i><span class="st1"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Good stress refers to healthy
and/or fulfilling arousal! The thought or sound of that ‘special someone’,
preparing for a long awaited special event, watching your favourite sports
team...</span></span><span class="style2001"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="style2001"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">If your past
has not been as harmonious as you desired, honestly examine the capacities and
influences that impacted your life and of the energies that are still
influencing your life choices.</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="style2001"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">I have
mentors some of which are no longer living but their influence still has a
positive radiating effect on my life. On the other hand, there are those whose
lives and life choices impacted our lives negatively and it is to these we need
to address decisions if our future is to be different to our past.</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="style2001"><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Consciously
and unconsciously negative influences are contributing factors to distress.
Distress is not healthy, the list of diseases related to stress is long and </span></span><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">scientific research adds on a regular basis more mental and
physical diseases to this list. Examples of stress related diseases are
depression, diabetes, obesity, heart disease, sexual dysfunction…sadly the list
is large.</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Whether distress be covert or
overt it has the power, silent or otherwise, to put people into a depressed,
ineffective mode. Unless ‘nipped in the bud’ this behaviour can have a
crippling effect on the once healthy body.</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Distress often stays in an
alert state much longer and for this reason researchers refer to this state as
the fight or flight response. Unaddressed becomes the foundation for disease.</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">If while reading you have
identified contributing factors to distress, what are you willing to change?
Some may say, there is nothing I can do. This dear reader is another subject
for another time – it is called ‘helplessness’.</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<em><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;">“Change
brings opportunity.”</span></em><b><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 9.0pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span></b><strong><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; font-weight: normal; line-height: 150%;">Nido Quebein. </span></strong><span style="color: #663300; font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 150%;"><br />
<strong><span style="font-weight: normal;">It
takes courage to change but change brings new opportunity, better health and
brighter tomorrows. So whatever it is that you have been promising yourself to
do, make a decision and do it now!</span></strong></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-29129457582204886792014-04-13T20:57:00.001-07:002014-04-13T20:57:19.068-07:00Seven Steps to Corporate Sccess<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"><span style="color: red;">1. Don’t start only with
customer-facing teams. </span></span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">Starting your service transformation with customer-facing team members
might seem like the obvious move. But if your objective is to build an uplifting
service culture, this approach can be very problematic. Because your people in
“customer-facing” roles interact with customers daily, they already understand
that service is important. They know that upset customers complain. They know
happy customers are easier to serve. What they don’t know is how to fix the
behind-the-scenes issues that often affect the customers’ perceptions.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">When you provide new service
education, greater encouragement, and more recognition for customer-facing
teams like sales, installation, repair, or customer service, they will be
inspired to serve better, smile wider, and strive even harder to delight. But
at some point, they will start to wonder how they can give customers better
service if their colleagues do not give <i>them </i>better service.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">When launching an uplifting
service program, it would be much better to include or begin with internal
service providers: production and design, hardware and software, warehousing
and logistics, facilities, finance, legal, IT, and HR. When these internal
service providers make things easier, faster, more responsive, or more flexible
for your customer-facing employees, they’ll be surprised, delighted, and better
able to serve your external customers. Let those on the inside inspire those who
are serving on the outside with better service first. It’s a proven win-win
situation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"><span style="color: red;">2. Launch at all levels.</span></span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"><span style="color: red;"> </span>Starting from the top with an
uplifting service initiative makes sense. When high-level leaders speak up and
role model with commitment, it’s easier for everyone else to follow—and take
the lead at their own levels. However, a top-down approach on its own can leave
your leaders in an uncomfortable position. When those at the top make the
earliest efforts, they must wait for the cascade to see practical results. But
a cascade does not happen overnight—and this lack of quick and observable
impact can cause some leaders to get impatient and question whether the
outcomes will happen at all.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">At the same time, though, you
must beware of launching from the bottom up without support from the top—the
classic mistake of stand-alone “frontline service training programs.” It won’t
take long before a motivated frontline service provider bumps into a supervisor
or manager who does not share the understanding or the passion.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">That’s what happened at a leading
tour operator when it brought its frontline employees a novel campaign called
“Be Service Entrepreneurs.” The objective was for staff members to make
decisions as if they were the owners. One enthusiastic frontline service
provider did just that. He chartered a plane to move customers along when the
company’s tour bus broke down. It was a gutsy move his customers loved, but
most of the company’s leaders had never heard of this frontline program and
were not pleased with this result. The program was quickly retired as word
spread throughout the company that “Be Service Entrepreneurs” was no longer
supported.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"><span style="color: red;">3. Don’t forget the middle. </span></span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">Companies often decide to launch
from the top down and from the bottom up at the same time. But doing so puts a
great deal of responsibility on the people in the middle. In the top-down
cascade, middle managers and supervisors must translate the messages in action,
connect company objectives to frontline concerns, and make uplifting language
appear practical and useful. In the bottom-up bubbling of new ideas and action
steps, the middle plays three culture-building roles: praising team members who
do a great job, raising good suggestions for higher-level review, and
spotlighting roadblocks that require leadership action for removal.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">In both instances, you’re asking
a lot of your managers and supervisors.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">But starting in the middle won’t
work either. When leaders are not prepared to lead, and frontline employees are
not prepared for action, then asking middle managers to start the journey alone
is a formula for pure frustration. A top-down cascade brings commitment,
alignment, and support. A bottom-up program stimulates new ideas and new
actions. An activated middle connects, enables, and empowers. It’s best to
prepare well and start with attention to all three.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"><span style="color: red;">4. Arm your leaders with helpful
service hints.</span> </span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">Most
people who reach high leadership positions are experts in their industry. But
rarely are they experts in building or leading a service culture. That means if
you are one of the passionate and committed service heroes inside your
organization, you may need to help your leaders lead. That means creating
opportunities for them to walk the walk, talk the talk, and model uplifting service.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">Invite your leaders to
participate with you in customer meetings and focus groups. Ask them to help
you recognize the company’s top-notch service providers with a visit, a
handshake, a photograph, and a short speech. Keep them informed about the uplifting
service transformation’s progress by providing short descriptions of service
problems that have been recently solved, noting who worked on the problem, what
they did to solve it, and how service was improved.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"><span style="color: red;">5. Go for easy wins first.</span> </span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">The principles of uplifting
service are so empowering and the practices so effective that some leaders push
their teams to solve the most difficult and complex service problems right
away. That’s a mistake to avoid. Warming up a machine before you go full
throttle is good practice. Warming up your service team with a series of “early
wins” is good practice, too.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">When planning a sequence of
service problems to tackle, take a gradual approach. Build momentum with early
wins on easy issues. Let your team taste the pleasure of uplifting service
success. Highlight achievements and celebrate the compliments you earn. Restrain
the urge to work on your toughest problems first—their day to be conquered will
come.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"><span style="color: red;">6. Stay vigilant. Keep your aim
on the right bull’s-eye</span>. </span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">I write about a client who launched a vigorous service improvement
program to create greater value for external customers. Hundreds of classes
were conducted for thousands of service champions around the world. But
something unusual happened as the program rolled out. Rather than focus on
identified external business targets—reclaiming market share, rebuilding a
slipping reputation, bouncing back in recovery situations, etc.—earning high
internal course evaluations became the course leaders’ primary focus.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">Scoring 9 out of 10 for leading a
wonderful class became a cause for celebration. That’s a great score, but a
very different bull’s-eye. Eventually this lack of alignment with the program’s
original goals became painfully apparent. The focus had drifted away from the
early goals, and the entire program needed to refocus. Don’t let this drifting
happen to you. A clear bull’s-eye that delivers value to others should always
be at the center of your efforts, well articulated and understood by everyone
involved.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"><span style="color: red;">7. Watch out for stuck-in-the-mud
team members.</span></span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;"> Some
hard-nosed managers will challenge a new program by sending their most cynical
and problematic employees. Their view is, “If a new program can work on these
tough nuts, then perhaps it has some merit.” But the opposite approach will
work much better. What you want in the early days of your journey is good feelings,
good results, and good gossip. That comes more easily from participants who <i>want</i>
to participate and are eager to succeed.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">There is an old saying that “A
rising tide lifts all boats.” This is also true when building an uplifting
service culture—except for those who are stuck in the mud. Practicing generous
action raises everyone to a higher level—except those who will not budge. For
deeply cynical, resentful, or unwilling employees, there are two successful
options. First, they may come to see the light and climb on board for an
unfamiliar but uplifting ride. And second, they may feel so out of place as
everyone else moves ahead, they no longer feel welcome, and leave. For the
success of your organization, either outcome is welcome.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-SG;">When transforming an existing
service culture, you have to get <i>everyone</i> involved in new, swift action
to make the change really happen. <i>What you need is a service revolution, not
gradual evolution.</i> A timid program with small starts and scattered efforts
won’t work. You need a bold and uplifting revolution that gives everyone a role
to play, and counts on everyone to make the future—a better future—into a
service reality today.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-16836972413031011492012-05-12T00:44:00.000-07:002013-10-26T00:45:23.186-07:00Learning from Steve Jobs<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<strong>Gleaning from SJ – by Leslie Choudhury</strong><br />
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Steve Jobs’ impact on our life cannot be underestimated. His
innovations have likely touched nearly every aspect — computers, movies,
music and mobile. As a communications coach, I learned from Jobs that a
presentation can, indeed, inspire. For many people, leaders, managers,
Jobs’ greatest legacy is the set of principles that drove his success.
We need to learn from this. What are you creating that is worth sharing?</div>
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Over the years, I’ve become a student of many great leaders and of
course of Steve Job’s career and life. Here’s my take on the rules and
values underpinning his success. Any of us can adopt them to unleash
our “inner Steve Jobs.” Question that remains is will we?</div>
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1. Do what you love. Jobs once said, “People with passion can change
the world for the better.” Asked about the advice he would offer
would-be leaders, he said, “I’d get a job as a busboy or something until
I figured out what I was really passionate about.” That’s how much it
meant to him. Passion is everything. Nothing can or will substitute
passion. In dealing with companies and people I have come to realize
this is a critical success ingredient. I recently had to advise an old
friend, to quit his job because he was not passionate about it and if he
could not get passionate then ‘get out’. In the alternate scenario I
encouraged a young, vibrant lady to take up a leadership role because
she was full of passion and it needed that step for her to realize what
she is capable of. When you do what you love, it isn’t a job, it is
where you get your natural adrenalin rush from, it is fun, it is like a
favourite sport, hobby … and sometimes people have to tell you to stop!</div>
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2. Put a dent in the universe. Jobs believed in the power of vision.
I once asked the founder and former chairman of Sony Corporation, Akio
Morita, “What was his Vision?” His was a simple vision, “To make things
smaller and better!” Sony grew from nothing to one of the largest most
successful electronic companies in the world. Their success was through
‘innovation’. They have made a dent in the world. How do you want to
spend your life? How will you be involved in changing the world?” What
is your vision? Don’t lose sight of this vision.</div>
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3. Make connections. Jobs once said creativity is connecting things.
He meant that people with a broad set of life experiences can often see
things that others miss. He took calligraphy classes that didn’t have
any practical use in his life — until he built the Macintosh. Jobs
travelled to India and Asia. He studied design and hospitality. Don’t
live in a bubble. Connect ideas from different fields. Networking is a
key to success. I cannot imagine to be where I am today if not for
knowing the right people, having been connected with a variety of people
and experiences. I have been involved with sports, music, church and
para-church organizations, civil service and corporate think-tanks,
hospitality, travel, time-share, and education. As Steve Jobs says, you
can only connect the dots looking backwards. Today, I can so embrace
what life unfolds as I made the connections yesterday that keep paying
off tomorrow.</div>
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4. Say ‘No’ to many things. Jobs was as proud of what Apple chose not
to do as he was of what Apple did. When he returned in Apple in 1997,
he took a company with 350 products and reduced them to 10 products in a
two-year period. Why? So he could put the “A-Team” on each product.
What are you saying “no” to? I have said no to Seychelles, Qatar, Fiji,
New Zealand, numerous assignments, appointments, jobs, directorships,
etc as they would have not helped me focus on being what I want to be
or getting where I want to go. Life is about choices. We must choose to
focus. Many people focus on what is urgent and not on what is important.
We must focus on what is important, crucial, vision-critical not what
is urgent.</div>
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5. Create insanely different experiences. Jobs also sought innovation in
the customer-service experience. When he first came up with the concept
for the Apple Stores, he said they would be different because instead
of just moving boxes, the stores would enrich lives. Everything about
the experience you have when you walk into an Apple store is intended to
enrich your life and to create an emotional connection between you and
the Apple brand. What are we doing to enrich the lives of our customers?
Are we creating memory banks for our clients? Moments clients will
relish, touch them, change them and remain in them forever … we can! I
love having an impact on a person long after the face to face encounter.
I always think about what I can do different, how I can give people
those kind of ‘life changing’ experiences?</div>
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6. Master the message. You can have the greatest idea in the world,
but if you can’t communicate your ideas, it doesn’t matter. Jobs was the
world’s greatest corporate storyteller. Instead of simply delivering a
presentation like most people do, he informed, he educated, he inspired
and he entertained, all in one presentation. What is the story we tell
our customer? What is the story they will tell others? I recently had a
series of workshops conducted for DELL computers on ‘Emotional
Intelligence’, where every single available seat was taken up and in
fact quite overbooked. When asking each person, why they were there in
my workshop it was immensely encouraging to hear them say ‘I was told I
should not miss this opportunity by so and so’. If our message is right,
touching, life-changing, it will be spread!</div>
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7. Sell dreams, not products. Jobs captured our imagination because he
really understood his customer. He knew that tablets would not capture
our imaginations if they were too complicated. The result? One button on
the front of an iPad. It’s so simple, a 2-year-old can use it. Our
customers don’t care about our products. They care about themselves,
their hopes, their ambitions. Jobs taught us that if we help our
customers reach their dreams, we’ll win them over.</div>
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There’s one story that I think sums up Jobs’ career at Apple. An
executive who had the job of reinventing the Disney Store once called up
Jobs and asked for advice. His counsel? ‘Dream Bigger’. I think that’s
the best advice he could leave us with. See genius in our craziness,
believe in ourself, believe in our vision, and be constantly prepared to
defend those ideas. I just finished attending a symposium where a
lovely lady named Sharon from Australia talked about ‘Selling
Goosebumps’ ! We are in the business of selling dreams, creating dreams,
making dreams come true ..making memories, creating experiences that
bring a warmth to the heart and souls of our customers. I want to be
part of this …do you?</div>
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See it, be it, live it !!!<br />
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www.lesliechoudhury.com</div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-10017938873259588352012-05-12T00:37:00.000-07:002013-10-26T00:41:11.679-07:00Dealing With Negative People !!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Have you ever been faced with trying to stay positive when others around
you are negative? Negative people can be a challenge to be around. They
will bring you down and drain your energy. A negative person can throw
your best laid plans to be positive right out the window. Whether your
child or spouse has an occasional negative day or you deal with a family
member, friend or co-worker that is chronically negative, there are
things you can do to remain positive in the face of negativity.</div>
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<strong>1. Let the Negativity Pass</strong></div>
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Whatever you do, do not argue with a negative person. Arguing only adds
fuel to the fire. A negative person will feed off any negativity that
will strengthen his mood or attitude. I have noticed when my children
are in a crabby mood, it is best to avoid trying to convince them to
analyze and adjust their attitude. As soon as I take the approach of
being in opposition with them, they seize the opportunity to prove to me
that life stinks. Their negativity intensifies and the situation gets
worse before it gets better. Sometimes the best thing to do is remain
silent and let the negativity pass.</div>
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<strong>2. Negative People Need Love</strong></div>
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You know how difficult it can be to give love and positive attention to
negative people. Unfortunately, that is often exactly what they need.
Deep inside that mean and critical person is a person that is usually
afraid he or she is unlovable. It is our challenge to rise above the
negative attitude and love the injured person inside. How do you show
love when someone is negative? You must listen to what she is trying to
tell you. Acknowledge the feelings she has by saying something like,
“You sound very angry right now”. Even if you don’t quite understand the
person’s feelings, know that your reality is different than someone
else’s. Ask how you might help the negative person. This shows
legitimate interest in her happiness. Offer a hug even if you get
rejected. Remember not to take a rejection of your love personally. A
negative person often has difficulty receiving love from others.</div>
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<strong>3. Focus on the Positive</strong><br />
If you try really hard, there is always something positive to be found
in any situation. Pretend you are on a treasure hunt and search for any
gold or jewels you can emphasize. Even a negative person has positive
qualities. When a person is drowning in negativity, it can be difficult
for them to see the positive. So often my clients focus on the negative
aspects of themselves. They forget about all the great things they are
doing. I admit that sometimes a negative person doesn’t want to see the
positive. This might require her to shift her outlook. Negativity can
become a habit and habits are hard to break. Be patient and gently
remind your grumpy friend or family member to look for the pot of gold
at the end of the rainbow. Hopefully, in her down time, she will begin
to reflect on what you have said.</div>
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<strong>4. Ask Negative People to Elaborate</strong><br />
You may hear a negative person say things like: “Women are fickle.” “You
can’t trust doctors.” “My husband makes me miserable.” These kinds of
statements are a type of cognitive distortion referred to as
generalizations. To help a person sort through her distorted thinking,
ask for more specifics. Questions like “Which women are fickle?” or
“What specifically about your husband is making you miserable?” force a
person to evaluate what he or she is really trying to say. A negative
person will either give up because it takes too much effort to explain
himself, or he or she will get to the bottom of the issue.</div>
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<strong>5. Detach and Avoid Trying to Change the Negative Person</strong><br />
Learning to detach emotionally from a negative person can greatly
benefit you and the other person. A negative person will fight you if
you try to change them. If you want, you can try a little reverse
psychology and agree with everything she says. I once read a great
article about a mother who was exasperated with her son’s negative mood.
Everything she tried to soothe him and make him feel better backfired.
She finally gave up and started agreeing with everything he said. When
her son told her his friends were mean, she agreed with him. When he
complained that his teacher didn't know anything, she couldn't agree
more. After several minutes of this kind of dialogue with her son, his
mood suddenly shifted. He declared that he was tired and he went to bed
with a smile on his face.</div>
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<strong>6. Stay Away from Negative People</strong><br />
If you have negative people in your life that are critically affecting
your mental and physical health, you need to evaluate whether or not you
want these people in your life. Some people are so chronically negative
that you have no other choice but to remove them from your life. It’s
possible to do that with friends. You can find another job if your boss
or other co-workers are bringing you down. Other people, such as
children and spouses, are difficult to remove from your life. In this
instance, professional counseling may be the answer. To protect your
well being, you need to enforce very strong boundaries with negative
people.</div>
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<strong>7. Keep Your Own Negative Thoughts and Behaviors in Check</strong><br />
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If you do nothing else but focus on managing your own negative thoughts
and behavior, you will come a long way towards remaining positive. A
negative attitude is contagious, but a positive attitude is infectious
as well. Hang out with positive people that encourage you to be your
best self. Use positive affirmations to overcome negative self-talk.
Express your gratitude for all the positive things in your life. Take
the time everyday to watch all the beautiful things going on around you.
Read inspirational material and listen to joyful music. Take care of
yourself spiritually. Do whatever you have to do to remain positive and
happy despite the negativity you face.</div>
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The world will be a better place because of you and your attitude.
And you never know, you just might help a negative person make a change
to a better way of living.<br />
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<strong>Leslie Choudhury – </strong><strong>Int’l Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Author</strong><strong></strong><br />
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It doesn’t matter what your goals are for the coming months…eventually, you’re going to have days when you doubt yourself.<br />
It may start out small, a thought so tiny and insignificant that you
barely give it a glance, or it might smack you right in the face.<br />
That’s when it happens – your momentum stops!<br />
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I’ve been there plenty of times. When I started my first business I
doubted myself constantly. I was afraid I was going to fall flat on my
face, and that my friends and family would laugh at my dream.<br />
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I felt like I was all alone, with no one who truly ‘got it’.<br />
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But you know what?<br />
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Self-doubt is a very human emotion that hits us all at one time or
another. But, you CAN’T let those feelings of self-doubt stop you from
following your dreams.<br />
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If I’d listened to my self-doubts, or the occasional ones still have,
then I would still be wishing for more as opposed to enjoying more.<br />
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Wanna change your self-doubt into confidence…<br />
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Next time you experience doubt, write it down on a piece of paper.
Then, on the other side of the paper, write down the complete opposite.<br />
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I promise it’ll make you feel amazing…<br />
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If you doubt that you’ll ever find a way to leave your dreary job,
which takes too much time away from your family and your health.<br />
<br />
Then write down: “I’m not sure I’m ever going to be able to leave my job.”<br />
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Then, write down the exact opposite on the other side of the page.<br />
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“I’m GOING to start my own home business so I have the freedom to spend more time with my family.”<br />
See the difference?<br />
<br />
That second sentence is full of life and power and DOING. You’re
saying you WILL do this. Not you’re going to try, or you might do it.
You WILL do it. And writing it down strengthens your drive.<br />
<br />
Listen, it doesn’t matter WHAT your dreams are…YOU have the power within you to accomplish them.<br />
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Keep Moving Forward!</div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0Singapore1.352083 103.819836000000010.84410649999999987 103.174389 1.8600595 104.46528300000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-31431679625701063182012-05-12T00:26:00.000-07:002013-10-26T00:32:44.262-07:00Power of Words<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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BooYaa !!!<br />
<br />
The Power of Words<br />
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“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me!”<br />
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We all heard that saying when we were children, and, like so many
other childlike chants, it was a great myth. Words do have power,
immense power, and they can cause much pain, because when they are
repeated in negative fashion, people, especially children, may end up
believing them. “You’re a bad boy,” “You’ll never amount to anything.”
“You’re a loser,” “Does your face hurt? It’s killing me.”</div>
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These are only slight examples of the negative language we often
hear. We have all heard them, and unfortunately have been guilty of
dishing them out as well.<br />
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During the 1980′s ( my dad told me) there was a big push for building
self-esteem, and workshops were available everywhere teaching us how to
make people ‘feel good about themselves.’ This 180 degree turn seemed
valid in theory, but what happened in many cases was positive feedback
became the new mantra, and yet the effect didn’t always achieve the
desired results. Why? Because recipients only benefited from the praise
if they believed it was genuine.</div>
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This brings us to an important point. Self-talk and self-belief are
the keys. No one can ruin our day without our permission, and always
feeling good about ourselves is impossible. I hold this to be true –
that self-esteem and self-worth are not synonymous. Self-esteem is
having pride in oneself and generally feeling good about who we are. I
don’t know about you, but I certainly have had moments in my life when I
wasn’t too proud of my actions, and without question I have had times
when I didn’t feel good about me.</div>
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This moment of “lack of self-esteem” would indicate that something is
terribly wrong. Contrary to the education of self-esteem, nothing is
wrong – we are simply human.<br />
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Self-worth, on the other hand, is acceptance of who we are – all of
our strengths and weaknesses, all of our abilities (or lack thereof),
all of our joyful moments as well as those times of sorrow; our
contributions and our refusals, etc. See a pattern?</div>
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We are worthy simply because we are God’s creation, and we are loved for every part of us.</div>
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Whether we are in a good place or a bad one, whether we are
contributing or contaminating, whether we have done something to be
proud of or something to be embarrassed or ashamed of, nothing
diminishes our worthiness.</div>
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The negative actions and the ensuing consequences may affect our self-esteem, but it has no impact on our self-worth!<br />
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Be the person you were born to be…believe, use that tongue to
encourage, to build people up, to help, to empower…your words can mean
something and can be tremendously powerful….understand the power of
speaking good….the power of words !</div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0Singapore1.352083 103.819836000000010.84410649999999987 103.174389 1.8600595 104.46528300000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-86376714141104789772012-01-26T00:48:00.000-08:002013-10-26T00:49:15.194-07:00Are You A Winner ?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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What is a winner? For some to be a winner is to be a good sport
or having fun. For others, it was about crushing the competition. How
you answer this question is a reflection on you. Here are some of my own
principles of winners:</div>
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Keep learning- If you stay stagnant, people will pass you by. There
is always something to learn. If you make it a point to keep up on the
patterns, trends, technologies in your field of work, you will have an
advantage. If you spent 30 minutes on a particular topic or area a day
within 6 months we would be considered an expert in that area! You can
always learn something from someone, even what not to do! Simply put
there is so much for us to learn so let’s keep learning.</div>
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Do your best- Compete against your best self, not others, and you
will continue to improve. Too often we look at other people as our
measuring stick. Stop comparing yourself to others and compare yourself
to your best yesterday self. How have you gotten better? We can learn
from others but compete against ourself. Be the best I can be should be
our motto!</div>
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Communicate truthfully- Being honest is its own reward; it will help
you sleep well at night. Don’t oversell yourself. It is so better to
have someone else tell you that you are better than you say that you
are. Your weaknesses are endearing. So wear them honestly. I find when I
open up and be honest people listen, people can relate and i am far
more effective in my communication.</div>
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Honour your agreements- If your word is trustworthy, you are a
winner. People love to work with people that they trust. Trust and
honesty go hand in hand. Your word has to be as good as gold. Everytime I
can follow-through on something I have promised, I feel good but more
than that I have built up my credibility, the trust. Today, when I say
to people whom have worked with me, I will get this done, they know I
will. It is not about big promises, its about all the little ones as
well.</div>
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Move steadily forward- Setting goals and moving ahead toward your
dreams makes you a winner. If you are actively doing one thing every day
to move you toward your dreams you will move steadily toward achieving
them. Moemtum is important, which is why winners keep records, of times,
achievements, goals etc. Pushing a moving rock to new direction or to
speed it up is easy when it is moving but trying to puch something
stagnant is a tough task. Momentum is crucial to achieving goals.</div>
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<span style="text-align: justify;">Accept blame- People will respect you if you admit your mistakes. No
one is perfect, but those who take responsibility for their mistakes are
respected. Perfection is annoying because no one is perfect. So, when
you mess up, and take your lumps, people will appreciate it. Too many
people want to lay blame or someone, something else but really the only
time we progress is when we face facts accept blame and then decide how
to make it right.</span></div>
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Celebrate the achievements of others- Other people’s successes are
not your failures. When you honour other winners, you are a winner. I
love watching manchester united play, when one player scores eveyone
partakes in the celebration and they hail the person that did it. The
power of Praise is too often left unsaid, undone, yet if we learn to
recognize another’s achievement, another’s victory, we lift her/him and
in the process lift ourselves.</div>
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How do you define winning? Are you a winner according to your own definition? <br />
<br />
Leslie Choudhury – Int’l Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Author<br />
Serious fun for serious business<br />
See it, be it, live it !!!<br />
<br />
www.lesliechoudhury.com<br />
www.impactfulpresentations.com/blog<br />
<br />
http://twitter.com/LeslieChoudhury<br />
CEO – Dreamz Image International<br />
Director – Directive Communication International<br />
Associate Director – ADMC Pte Ltd<br />
Owner’s Representative – Sun Island Group of Resorts<br />
www.sunisland.asia<br />
65 96347354<br />
<br />
http://www.communicationgurus.net/Next_Speaker_communicaton.php<br />
http://www.lesliechoudhury.com/what-people-say.html<br />
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-7754301876570420452011-09-08T00:55:00.000-07:002013-10-26T00:56:43.841-07:00The Law of Attraction<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Responsibility for our lives is something we never lose but
which we often deny. As I’ve said many times before, you can give away
control but never responsibility. Remember what I said in class it’s up
to “moi”. The ultimate responsibility for how your life turns out rests
with you and you alone… not with your parents, your boss, your
colleague, your ex, your society, father, mother, sister, brother,
husband, wife, God, or anyone else. You can blame whomever you wish,
but you’re the one who must experience (or endure) the results.</div>
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I sometimes receive feedback from people stuck in the pattern of
thinking about what they don’t want. They claim to be focusing on their
desires religiously, and they ask me why their goals don’t seem to be
manifesting. Then they explain all the reasons they believe they’re
having so much trouble.</div>
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The Law of Attraction brings you what you think about. To think is to
ask. I cannot help but quote the Word of God that clearly says; “ Ask
and You shall Receive, Seek and You will Find, Knock and the Dorr will
be Openned.” Every thought is an intention. Just be careful cause— it
doesn’t filter what you ask for. If you think about what you want, you
get it. If you think about what you don’t want, you get that too. Once
again, it’s about ‘Moi’ thoughts.</div>
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If you want to manifest your desires, then it makes no sense to write
statements like the above. Even when your desires haven’t yet
manifested, remain hopeful and optimistic. Pour on the positive intent,
set your RAS or the GPS of your mind on the right co-ordinates and
allow the Law of Attraction to work with you. Stay in the present
moment. Be on the lookout for synchronicities. If you start getting
frustrated, take a walk or do a meditation to nip it in the bud.
Otherwise you’ll negate your desires by intending their opposite.</div>
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The key to mastering the Law of Attraction is responsibility. Remember
the word ‘Responsibility’ comprises of the 2 words ‘RESPONSE’ &
‘ABILITY’ : It is our Response to the best of our Ability that is
required. You must accept personal responsibility for everything in your
life. And I do mean everything. If you perceive it, you’ve manifested
it. Whatever you give your attention to will expand.</div>
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How do you learn to stop thinking about what you don’t want? Accept
responsibility for attracting it. This raises your consciousness and
makes you more capable of successfully applying the Law of Attraction to
get what you do want.</div>
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What if I deny responsibility for what I experience? What if I say,
“Something out there is causing these problems, and I’m only noticing
what is happening”? Then I’m powerless to change my reality. If I
focus my thoughts on what I’m already getting, I’ll unknowingly activate
the Law of Attraction to continue bringing me more of the same. My
situation will never fundamentally change. And how can it change? If
I’m thinking about what I’m already getting, then I’m manifesting a
loop. It’s stable. If my life is filled with the manifestation of my
desires, I’m in heaven. If my life is filled with what I don’t want,
I’m in hell.</div>
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If you’re determined to think about what you don’t want, I certainly
can’t stop you. The best I can do is to hold you accountable for your
results, which can help you become more aware of what you’re doing to
yourself. But if you really want to beat yourself up, go for it. Just
note that I won’t be joining you for the subsequent pity parties down
the road. Only you can save you. It’s up to ‘Moi’. Start learning to
Visualize all the important events, desires, goals, and plans of your
life.Remember, ‘If you can see it, you can do it’ ; first you visualize
then you can actualize it !</div>
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Personal testing is one of the reasons I accept the Law of Attraction.
It’s proven itself to me beyond a reasonable doubt. I’ve been working
with it consciously for a few years now, and it still freaks me out
sometimes. Who’d have thought we could attract what we want just by
thinking about it? Does reality really work that way? If it seems
impossible, the thought of its impossibility will manifest like any
other. If you don’t believe in the Law of Attraction, you’re actually
using it to negate itself, which is a perfectly valid application,
albeit one that will bring you lots of frustration.</div>
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One of the reasons I’m so happy and passionate about my life is that I’m
getting better at aligning myself with the Law of Attraction. ( or as I
like to look at it : ‘The Law of God’.) I’m having a wonderful time
experimenting with it. As I think about what I want, I keep wondering
when it’s going to show up. When I try to control how it comes to me, I
usually block it. But when I relax and allow it to happen, that’s when
it finally begins showing up. The right people, resources, and
opportunities somehow find me, usually through unexpected
synchronicities.</div>
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<div style="text-align: justify;">
The sceptical part of my brain has trouble believing reality could
actually work like this. It requires a new model of reality in which
the Law of Attraction makes sense. Consequently, I’ve had to make major
adjustments to my beliefs to compensate for the Law of Attraction.
This led me towards a more subjective view of reality, which eventually
became my default way of thinking.</div>
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It all begins with accepting 100% responsibility for your reality.
You’re the one who’s creating it right now. Are you creating what you
want or what you don’t want? Change your dominant thoughts, and you’ll
see reality change as well.</div>
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If it’s going to be, it’s up to Me!<br />
<br />
Have an Awesome week !!!<br />
<br />
Leslie Choudhury – Int’l Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Author<br />
<br />
Serious fun for serious business<br />
See it, be it, live it !!!<br />
<br />
www.directivecommunication.com<br />
www.lesliechoudhury.com<br />
www.impactfulpresentations.com<br />
<br />
http://twitter.com/LeslieChoudhury<br />
<br />
CEO – Dreamz Image International<br />
Director – Directive Communication International<br />
Associate Director – ADMC Pte Ltd<br />
Owner’s Representative – Sun Island Resorts<br />
www.sunisland.asia<br />
65 96347354<br />
<br />
http://impactfulpresentations.com/blog<br />
http://www.communicationgurus.net/Next_Speaker_communicaton.php<br />
http://www.lesliechoudhury.com/what-people-say.html<br />
Connect to me on http://www.facebook.com/leslie.choudhury</div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-27373328223620555682011-08-26T00:58:00.000-07:002013-10-26T00:59:26.835-07:00If You Think You Can<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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If you think you Can<br />
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If you think you are beaten, you are.<br />
If you think you dare not, you don’t.<br />
If you like to win, but think you can’t,<br />
It’s almost certain you won’t.<br />
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost.<br />
For out of the world we find<br />
Success begins with a person’s will –<br />
It’s all in the state of mind.<br />
If you think you are outclassed, you are<br />
You’ve got to think high to rise.<br />
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before<br />
You can win the prize.<br />
Life’s battles don’t always go<br />
To the stronger or faster person.<br />
But sooner or later, the person who wins<br />
Is the person who thinks they CAN. <br />
<br />
Leslie Choudhury – Int’l Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Author<br />
Serious fun for serious business<br />
See it, be it, live it !!!<br />
<br />
<br />
www.dreamz-image.com<br />
www.directivecommunication.com<br />
www.lesliechoudhury.com<br />
www.impactfulpresentations.com<br />
http://twitter.com/LeslieChoudhury<br />
CEO – Dreamz Image International</div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-59204975813570089622011-06-26T01:12:00.000-07:002013-10-26T01:12:31.345-07:00Creed to Live By<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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A Creed to Live By<br />
Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others,<br />
It is because we are different that each of us is special.<br />
Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important,<br />
Only you know what is best for you.<br />
Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart<br />
Cling to that as you would your life, for without them life is meaningless.<br />
Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or the future.<br />
By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.<br />
Learn to live life in the NOW !<br />
Don’t give up when you still have something to give.<br />
Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.<br />
Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect,<br />
It is the fragile thread that binds us to each other.<br />
Don’t be afraid to encounter risks,<br />
It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.<br />
Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find.<br />
The quickest way to receive love is to give love.<br />
The fastest way to lose love is to hold on too tightly, and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.<br />
Don’t dismiss your Dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope.<br />
To be without hope is to be without purpose.<br />
Don’t run through life so fast that you forget where you’ve been,<br />
But also know where you’re going.<br />
Life is not a race, but a journey to be savoured every step of the way.<br />
It’s not about how fast we get there, it’s about the climb.<br />
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-19576636514886014292011-06-26T01:07:00.000-07:002013-10-26T01:08:37.077-07:00Everyday Communication<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
George Bernard Shaw wrote: “The problem with communication … is the illusion that it has been accomplished.”<br />
<br />
This quote could not be more true, and is further compounded by the ever
increasing introduction of modern technologies, the send and forget
type emails, Skype, MSN Messenger, facebook, SMS, etc! <br />
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For those of us who receive up to 50+ emails a day, how many of us
read them in detail and really try to understand what they are trying to
say? Probably few. How many of us are prepared to go back to the sender
and clarify some of the ‘grey’ areas with questions? Definitely few. </div>
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Is email the best way to get your message across? That is a question
that we should constantly ask ourselves. Other channels of communication
can be far more effective. It’s too easy to either ignore or not give
emails the attention they deserve. This is not the case when you are
communicating face to face or over the phone. </div>
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One dictionary definition of communication is “the imparting or
interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or
signs”. Sounds pretty simple, doesn’t it? Well, if you think about it,
all business communication should have a purpose, whether it’s just
‘FYI’ (for your information), i.e. reading to learn about something, or
encouraging a response or action on something. The challenge we are
faced with everyday is keeping messages simple enough to ensure we get
them across clearly, and more importantly, get the response we are
looking for as a result. Dr. Robert Cialdini, the famous author of
“Influence – the Psychology of Persuasion”, wrote: “Our best evidence of
what people truly feel and believe comes less from their words than
from their deeds.” </div>
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So how do we achieve the response we want? This is where influencing
comes into play, and starts with planning the outcome. Try asking
yourself what’s the purpose of this communication? What information is
critical and what’s less important, how will I structure it for maximum
effect? What’s the best way to communicate it? It all starts with
getting the message right! </div>
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The second step is to understand your constituents or recipients. What
is their attitude towards the subject? Working through both of these
factors weighs heavily on the successful outcome of your communication.
If you don’t have a good relationship with the receiver, they are less
likely to give your communication the attention it deserves.</div>
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The third part of the process is in analysing the response. It is
critical that time is spent asking if the communication was effective?
Was it really understood? Are they buying into the idea? Does their
response appear sceptical or confused?</div>
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<br />
A recent report estimated that over seven trillion emails were sent
worldwide last year! The average office worker now gets between 60-200
messages a day. While no one denies the obvious productivity gains we’ve
realised from the efficiencies of email communication, many people find
themselves drowning in all these messages. </div>
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Six general email dos and don’ts:<br />
<br />
1. Do understand that good quality subject and header lines are
important as these will be the search headings that you’ll be using
later to find specific emails in your archive folders.<br />
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2. Do make sure you are clear and concise in the content of your
message. Cover what it is you want to happen, i.e. the action/response,
in the very first line. For example, right at the top of the email, put
your ‘action’, what you expect your recipient to do. And then structure
the background of your message around it. Recipients will take note that
they need to do something and then spend more time making sure that
they understand the context of the message. </div>
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3. Do realise that your message can be forwarded to anyone and it
says something about you. Make sure you re-read it and are comfortable
with how it reflects on you. Be careful when sending confidential
information by email as again it can be so easily forwarded. If you have
to, make sure you word your message in as factual and balanced way as
possible. </div>
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4. Don’t respond to an email in anger… Practise the 24-hour rule when
you’re upset. By the next day, you might save yourself from dramatic
over reaction. Remember, it’s the right response that you are looking,
not revenge! <br />
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5. Don’t put a hyperlink to additional information at the top or even
in the middle of a mail. Put it at the end. Why? Well, it’s human
nature to click on it as you read. Your reader may miss all the
important text that comes after the link. </div>
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6. Don’t ‘cc’ the world – Ask yourself who really needs this
information? It’s too easy to copy everyone, even if they don’t really
need it. Don’t expect a response from someone who was cc’d. </div>
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At the end of the day, the backbone of successful communication lies
even deeper. Great communication is about a high level of transparency,
trust and honesty. With these ‘environmental’ values in place,
communication and teamwork can really flourish.</div>
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“Nothing beats old fashion face to face, eyeball to ball communication.” – Leslie Choudhury </div>
Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-77243406458047341202011-04-26T01:12:00.000-07:002013-10-26T01:21:31.720-07:00Keeping Motivated<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIiB3p8xkF3VpwD9-TLyTLastrpM2FPGy3yj0VNeVvrfoBeIYaiQqTGnPnqlQJOGREEakzQNCeOx9XVROdJQw3ku7Yr2EpiJ-PeikbucU-TAMv4t4QCjacsC6pGn6aHXMh2ZgDb9rfjUA/s1600/yorkesmile.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIiB3p8xkF3VpwD9-TLyTLastrpM2FPGy3yj0VNeVvrfoBeIYaiQqTGnPnqlQJOGREEakzQNCeOx9XVROdJQw3ku7Yr2EpiJ-PeikbucU-TAMv4t4QCjacsC6pGn6aHXMh2ZgDb9rfjUA/s1600/yorkesmile.jpg" /></a><br />
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I’m often asked, “What’s the best way to go about keeping my
motivation for the task at hand from dwindling down on me?” — it’s an
important question, and one that might be best answered by looking at
the following example.</div>
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First, it’s worth considering that motivation is a state. Just as
happiness is a state. Meaning, happiness is less a destination, or a
place to “arrive at”, versus a feeling that one experiences in the given
moment. You choose to put on that feeling!</div>
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To further illustrate, consider just about every time you remember
having felt a true sense of joy in your life. It’s likely that it was
around some event, or the thought of some event, happening, or
experience right? That’s why we can rarely fully recapture that feeling
of happiness or joy, at least to the extent we felt it originally, when
we think back on, or in advance of, whatever event brings us happiness
in the moment that we’re doing it.</div>
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Take a moment to pause and give thought to the ideas I just shared if
need be. They are worth understanding. Now let’s put a big nice bow
around this topic and delve further into exactly how it fits with
creating sustainable motivation. Ready? Good let’s go!</div>
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While we are each unique and possess our own talents, gifts and life
experiences, all of which have gone into making us the people we are,
it’s also worth realizing that each of us has our own inner motivators —
things that when triggered inspire us to some greater action.</div>
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In that respect, we can be motivated by others, sources directly
outside ourselves, or something inside ourselves, a memory, or even a
fear or past experience which we don’t want to see repeated, or play out
in our lives.</div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhClIj-hxhZb2fZZXcLd2MdrJigDdZhuteW6Y5g0Q29mSfTSe5JO54Hw0763eYDhwW90okJm_23isMtxN5V4ozekAPBDnDw9qD33BC0IDpQGkRBOEUp-zGI0P8YOLbjUPkWGATVm5lEnlU/s1600/motivated.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhClIj-hxhZb2fZZXcLd2MdrJigDdZhuteW6Y5g0Q29mSfTSe5JO54Hw0763eYDhwW90okJm_23isMtxN5V4ozekAPBDnDw9qD33BC0IDpQGkRBOEUp-zGI0P8YOLbjUPkWGATVm5lEnlU/s1600/motivated.jpg" /></a></div>
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In fact, we can go from feeling completely uninspired, to one in
which we’re literally ready to take on the world! The change in how we
view ourselves, and in particular our ability to achieve a thing can
shift in a moment.</div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfSx5qLHXfUAFxg1FtDTCHm1_jbik8lOBlNkvjzdpkfK315dfkyWwdejNqB-hGS6W_LeQQBm-_byGbDujm_EkAWrvVcoEBzwIbeH8BxtL9nNPHuGU5rlInXCB5SQdAPuSZ5bPg5N0NKew/s1600/to-do.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfSx5qLHXfUAFxg1FtDTCHm1_jbik8lOBlNkvjzdpkfK315dfkyWwdejNqB-hGS6W_LeQQBm-_byGbDujm_EkAWrvVcoEBzwIbeH8BxtL9nNPHuGU5rlInXCB5SQdAPuSZ5bPg5N0NKew/s1600/to-do.jpg" /></a>My point is that “staying motivated” has less to do with finding a
way to remain in a constant state of inspiration, and more about
realizing that inside you, you have the ability to shift from your
current state, if it’s not serving to move you forward, to one filled
with motivation to achieve whatever your given endeavor happens to be
asking of you.</div>
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<strong>The way you begin your day counts</strong> — and it counts big
time! In fact, it can literally frame what you and I take notice of
through out any given day. Consider that for the most part we pretty
much have a blank slate when we begin our day. With that said, the first
things you do upon waking up can be critical, they can play a much
larger part in how your day plays out then you might have ever
considered.</div>
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What we take in and focus on at least to some degree sculpts our own
thinking going forward. If you take in negative ideas and experiences,
you’re going to be more aware of them as they happen (and more
susceptible to the broken idea that that’s all you seem to be getting —
negative experiences).</div>
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Fortunately, the opposite is also true. If you proactively begin your
day taking in something of a positive nature it’s going to help you
develop a positive attitude, you’re going to be more equipped to notice
the good that’s around you, you’re going to even look for the good, when
perhaps otherwise you may have missed it completely.</div>
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To better illustrate my point consider the wise words of <a href="http://www.getmotivation.com/zig.htm" target="_blank"><strong><em>Zig Ziglar</em></strong></a><strong><em>,</em></strong> <em><strong>“They say motivation doesn’t last, well neither does the effects of bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily.”</strong></em></div>
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As I’ve mentioned before there are countless ideas you can put into
practice to maintain and build your motivational muscles. Here are a few
more I recommend. As you give these a try keep in mind that personal
development is a hands on project, which is to say you should adapt the
ideas below so they work best for you.</div>
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. Starting your day out right is powerful, but it’s equally as important that we “keep our cup full” so to speak.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiB9mYkdQCO6QfIuYnPS-rfBoySR53ECrSKkGIGhX4q8jtgWaz2FQxirpVM2kSt-KXgBYfGwe6WQkpkEjuuOCAimtKqPfVFnd7RloartnfHtycNlSk3GnlHdCpAXQt3TTpiFlLSoOD8Xgg/s1600/overflow1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiB9mYkdQCO6QfIuYnPS-rfBoySR53ECrSKkGIGhX4q8jtgWaz2FQxirpVM2kSt-KXgBYfGwe6WQkpkEjuuOCAimtKqPfVFnd7RloartnfHtycNlSk3GnlHdCpAXQt3TTpiFlLSoOD8Xgg/s1600/overflow1.jpg" /></a><strong>Schedule regular points during your day where you refill your mind with material of a positive nature</strong><br />
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With the abundance of resources from which we can access personal
development resources now there’s simply no excuse for you not to make
it a regular part of your day. This is easy to do, but it’s also easy
not to do. Make the choice to develop this positive habit and you’ll be
infinitely better for it!<br />
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<strong>Join or put together a group of people who share your
understanding of the importance that having positive, inspiring people
in their lives can play.</strong> A few such ideas might include joining
a small group at your church or particular place of worship. You could
also seek, or if need be, start a group where you all meet to discuss
the latest personal development or audio program you all are reading or
listening to.</div>
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If you don’t happen to have such a group in your area, look online,
or start one locally, be proactive and get yourself around a peer group
that can support and inspire you.<br />
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From here on out stop with the broken idea that “this personal
development and motivation stuff doesn’t work” just because you have to
keep coming back for a refill every now and again.<br />
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Consider that the leading experts in any given field or industry, if
they’re truly worth their salt, make the ongoing commitment to studying
their craft. You just don’t attain the level of mastery without
remaining plugged into and in ongoing learning mode. That holds true
whether you’re talking about personal, professional or a combination of
both.</div>
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The old saying, “You gotta’ be in it to win it” is right on!<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgiPMiiId0bnofKm14T6BytpB7oUjX37fJAw_wuXYQJBqSSvw2hTfv0mhdgSzG2jS3bNYFQni-ElxY-ykJfafIWPps0noNTRu5PU1wjtB6IErjiD1YV06lIG2HeflVmhxClaGdKcnOm1m0/s1600/yes-i1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgiPMiiId0bnofKm14T6BytpB7oUjX37fJAw_wuXYQJBqSSvw2hTfv0mhdgSzG2jS3bNYFQni-ElxY-ykJfafIWPps0noNTRu5PU1wjtB6IErjiD1YV06lIG2HeflVmhxClaGdKcnOm1m0/s1600/yes-i1.jpg" /></a><br />
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And so it is with you my friend — if you want to keep your level of
motivation at its peak you will need to regularly partake in whatever
source you happen to choose, whether that be a book, audio program, or
whatever, choose something ongoing that can regularly unleash your inner
inspiration. The choice is yours!</div>
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<a href="http://www.lesliechoudhury.com/">www.lesliechoudhury.com</a> <a href="mailto:leslie@lesliechoudhury.com">leslie@lesliechoudhury.com</a> </div>
Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-18487228813857056782011-03-26T01:29:00.000-07:002013-10-26T01:30:31.094-07:00Are You a Filler or a Dipper?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<strong>Are You a Filler or a Dipper?</strong><br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhk3I9o8WItwoYXs0l-o-W5BHtG0SkWyi6-AOhHq5GANxzX8YhdI6po2GvNYD93JW_lmQZ6ogoZ2EoDgQwPB3nU-7ByREt4R0_ebNHZpTgkC-eowxNq5dIFccgRyFOi4gldCKKMBp7AqBE/s1600/overflow2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhk3I9o8WItwoYXs0l-o-W5BHtG0SkWyi6-AOhHq5GANxzX8YhdI6po2GvNYD93JW_lmQZ6ogoZ2EoDgQwPB3nU-7ByREt4R0_ebNHZpTgkC-eowxNq5dIFccgRyFOi4gldCKKMBp7AqBE/s1600/overflow2.jpg" /></a>You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a
really large cup, only larger, it is an invisible cup. Everyone has one.
It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get
along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very
favourable things which made you want to be good to people for a week?
At that time, your cup was full.</div>
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A cup can be filled by a lot of things that happen. When a person
speaks to you, recognizing you as a human being, your cup is filled a
little. Even more if he calls you by name, especially if it is the name
you like to be called. If he compliments you on your dress or on a job
well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be a
million ways to raise the level in another’s cup.</div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7ozUlrRoGjNThxtJQ_6i9pkHqeEd-_JhX6a0u-BiQ1lX0sgf1zSl_4tT1sXeSVZe60bYK5g_UecY_PZCFlFKPVjyktGC9yjz28KxpJGhjXQaTd0cjn2vd6N6gL3vOvv3h6GFUsxio7f0/s1600/letter21.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7ozUlrRoGjNThxtJQ_6i9pkHqeEd-_JhX6a0u-BiQ1lX0sgf1zSl_4tT1sXeSVZe60bYK5g_UecY_PZCFlFKPVjyktGC9yjz28KxpJGhjXQaTd0cjn2vd6N6gL3vOvv3h6GFUsxio7f0/s1600/letter21.jpg" /></a>Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him,
knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss,
giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation,
or, perhaps more important, listening to
him.</div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiS05NOC8mLcaWkrbkBKC2AdeHu923jK-6TqsppiCJ5f_UxWqjqqVOIjhp_eIFKNz6XyVxm_gL9LF-fmmCa1WD5vzWOSf0JZOOl_0k9q6wiSylipaaz2Wq8QgfwHvKxQnPUpsY9bbwZdAQ/s1600/listening1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiS05NOC8mLcaWkrbkBKC2AdeHu923jK-6TqsppiCJ5f_UxWqjqqVOIjhp_eIFKNz6XyVxm_gL9LF-fmmCa1WD5vzWOSf0JZOOl_0k9q6wiSylipaaz2Wq8QgfwHvKxQnPUpsY9bbwZdAQ/s1600/listening1.jpg" /></a></div>
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When one’s cup is full of this emotional support, one can express warmth
and friendliness to people. But, remember, this is a theory about a cup
and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their dippers
in your cup. This, too, can be done in a million ways.</div>
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<div style="text-align: justify;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq27CaunjPcRh3Qk9EdBS1IlbMk17cxO4kjKkxGRsa2FZushJiUV0y9d5-FIk_7fxfF-BwVfrIOjOeOGVzvf0JHwxRFVt2Mr97nGS3NhmjwSS01EpZKxOMqeOJKGokFZnE794517YD8hg/s1600/corrections.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq27CaunjPcRh3Qk9EdBS1IlbMk17cxO4kjKkxGRsa2FZushJiUV0y9d5-FIk_7fxfF-BwVfrIOjOeOGVzvf0JHwxRFVt2Mr97nGS3NhmjwSS01EpZKxOMqeOJKGokFZnE794517YD8hg/s1600/corrections.jpg" /></a>Let’s just say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of
thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a
lady’s skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. “Bright Eyes”
across the table says, “You upset that glass of chocolate milk.” I made a
mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He just got his
dipper in my cup!</div>
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<div style="text-align: justify;">
Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible about it,
only to have someone tell him about the known mistake (“Red pen”
mentality! - Tendency to only correct and point out mistakes in
others!)</div>
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Cups are filled and cups are emptied ? Emptied many times because
people don’t really think about what are doing. When a person’s cup is
emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a person
whose cup is empty, “That is a really nice tie you have,” and he may
reply in a very irritated, defensive manner.</div>
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</div>
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhC6i99lRr9r_lgus8sPng0h-rgHlgr7p6vRN9_NQMzccQnRLP5cgd_UqsJChFEwhfcZB2K0tCHDZcarRqfXEI6HwmAnIyCPiR6Y7sQUGZ9Blf2WPK5c3PXeVjbbBmrJWKEWXuDiZwthvE/s1600/dipper3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhC6i99lRr9r_lgus8sPng0h-rgHlgr7p6vRN9_NQMzccQnRLP5cgd_UqsJChFEwhfcZB2K0tCHDZcarRqfXEI6HwmAnIyCPiR6Y7sQUGZ9Blf2WPK5c3PXeVjbbBmrJWKEWXuDiZwthvE/s1600/dipper3.jpg" /></a><br />
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Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who
seem to have holes in their cups. When a person has a hole in his cup,
he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their cups.
This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his cup because he
keeps losing.</div>
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<div style="text-align: justify;">
The story of our lives is the interplay of the cup the dipper.
Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the cup and the dipper is
that when you fill another’s cup it does not take anything out of your
own cup. The level in our own cup gets higher when we fill another’s,
and, on the other hand, when we dip into another’s cup we do not fill
our own … we lose a little.</div>
<br />
“<a href="http://thinkexist.com/quotation/the_mark_of_a_true_professional_is_giving_more/14610.html"><em><strong>The mark of true humanity is giving more than you get.</strong></em></a><em><strong> By giving, we really receive!</strong></em> ” – Leslie Choudhury<br />
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For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the cup of another
and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfilment,
and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some
reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds “fake” or the
other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is “brown-nosing.”</div>
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Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone’s life in order to fill their cup.<br />
<br />
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjbria-NYQXbm-5f4j1FlUi49O3Vo994lOXEEpDrmtQ1B80f7-yysbjyC9NT0l2N8RzQuX9epqxvbVMu24N2NHl-awE739_wMvQaa4928annNey9hPXrZZGmF3JoK2N6bHZ1ZaG3P1X-Z8/s1600/dipper2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjbria-NYQXbm-5f4j1FlUi49O3Vo994lOXEEpDrmtQ1B80f7-yysbjyC9NT0l2N8RzQuX9epqxvbVMu24N2NHl-awE739_wMvQaa4928annNey9hPXrZZGmF3JoK2N6bHZ1ZaG3P1X-Z8/s1600/dipper2.jpg" /></a>Have an Awesome week ahead!<br />
<strong>Leslie Choudhury – </strong><strong>Int’l Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Author</strong><strong> </strong><br />
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-12301019747619395292011-02-26T01:35:00.000-08:002013-10-26T01:35:56.945-07:00Talking to Myself<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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“Sticks and stones may break my bones but
words will never hurt me.” This little rhyme was one my mother told me
and I used many times as a child when someone was taunting or teasing me
or calling me names. I was trying to convince myself that the words of
another did not matter, but the truth is, their words did hurt me. I
could pretend otherwise, but inside it hurt. The words cut, they create
damage within and knowing that someone said something to intentionally
hurt me, did not help.</div>
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To this day however, the words of others are nothing compared to the
meanness and hurt of some of the words I’ve said to myself. I don’t
always say these words out loud, but the inside of my head is not a safe
neighborhood to hang out, especially at night. If I had an action
figure that represented myself and every time I had a negative or
self-critical thought I whacked that action figure, I doubt it would
make it through the day. It seems this is common among people I’ve
talked to. I’ve worked with dozens of clients who refer to themselves as
their own worst critic, but never as their own best friend.</div>
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Many psychologists discuss the concept of the inner critic. It’s
referred to by many different names, but most agree that it can be
directly linked to how our parents talked to us when we were growing up.
Throughout our childhood experiences of interacting with our primary
care givers, we imitate the parenting we received inside our own heads,
continuing the practice of praising, disciplining, etc. One of the ways
that shows up is as that critical inner voice. It’s also possible to
have a nurturing, supportive voice but this softer, gentler voice for
most people is drowned out by the louder, critical one.</div>
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In addition to self-criticism, I notice there are times when it seems
everything going through my head is negative. No one around me is doing
anything right, things are going wrong, and the world is a dark and
scary place. When my inner self-talk goes down the fear spiral my mind
can really go to town with what’s going on with the economy, and how I
have been affected personally. The ‘what if’s’ completely take over and
my inner neighborhood becomes a dark storm of disastrous possibilities
that show up as loss, scarcity and catastrophe.</div>
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The good news is we can actually change our inner self-talk AND we
can change what comes out of our mouths. Catching the inner critic
before it starts beating us up and shifting our words to nurturing,
supportive direction, like a coach would give, can lead to more positive
outcomes in our lives. Being conscious, deliberate and intentional
about what we say and what we think takes raising awareness, making a
choice and acting differently.</div>
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Raising awareness starts with becoming an observer of yourself,
noticing what you’re saying to yourself, how you’re interpreting
situations, and what is actually coming out of your mouth, especially at
those moments when no one is there to witness it. I have found the
practice of journaling to be very useful in this. There are times when I
don’t feel comfortable telling another person what I’m really thinking,
but I would write it in a journal I knew was safe from the eyes of
others. Once my thoughts and words are down on the page I can often see
how my thinking is distorted.</div>
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Once I have recognized a negative or disempowering pattern, I can
make a different choice. But what choice do I make? After all, my best
thinking got me here. It can be really helpful in the beginning to get
input from an objective friend or advisor since we can’t always be
objective about ourselves. For example, I told a friend of mine that not
as many people have been signing up for classes lately. She reminded me
that I could look at this as something personally to do with me or I
could more accurately conclude that people are reserving funds because
of the economy. I realized she was right. If I take it personally, it
feels negative, discouraging and disempowering, but with the latter
interpretation I can look at it as an opportunity to do some work that I
haven’t had time to do because I’ve been training so much.</div>
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Acting differently, of course means we don’t just raise our awareness
and do nothing with it, it means we follow through and declare our new
interpretations out loud. It’s a way of establishing a new pattern.</div>
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The most powerful way I have found to make these ideas work for me is
by being proactive vs. reactive. If I wait for the moments when my
thoughts are negative and self-critical it is much harder to direct
myself to a positive direction, but by deliberately choosing to be
gentle and supportive of myself as a matter of course, I can create a
positive foundation to build from.</div>
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To do this, I have developed a daily practice of saying positive,
uplifting and empowering statements to myself as soon as I wake up in
the morning (typically the most negative time of day for many people).
Statements like these are commonly called “Affirmations” because they
are validating a positive truth we wish to emphasize and expand. The
most gratifying result for me is a reduction in fear and depression, in
spite of the constant influx of negative input so prevalent lately in
the news and by doing this on a daily basis I have started a new, more
positive pattern of thinking that leads to raised self-esteem and more
positive outcomes.</div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-60021976839496441022011-02-25T01:44:00.000-08:002013-10-26T01:45:02.475-07:00The Art of Win-Win Negotiations<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<strong><em>The Art of Win / Win Negotiations !!! by Leslie Choudhury</em></strong><br />
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Ever heard someone say that they ‘gave away the store’? Despite our
best intentions, we sometimes give away too much to arrive at an
agreement. Even when we go into our talks with high motivations and a
grandiose, exuberant spirit of cooperation, we have to be wary and dip
our toes cautiously into the waters to make sure we aren’t about to be
devoured by piranha.</div>
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Today, many of us have heard the concept of win-win negotiations but do
we know what that really means? All too common, most negotiators fail to
understand that this term represents both parties achieving a
satisfactory negotiated settlement.</div>
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<strong><em>“Negotiation needs to start with the assumption that both
parties want more to agree than to disagree and there is a meeting
point.” – Leslie Choudhury</em></strong><br />
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Yes, win-win is less about the process, less about the “how” of
getting there, and more about the destination. How best to get you a
win-win outcome, whilst keeping your eyes fixed on that elusive win-win
negotiation outcome or goal. <strong><em>Steven Covey’s</em></strong> quote: <strong><em>“Begin with the End in Mind!”</em></strong> is very appropriate.</div>
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<strong><em>The Win-Win Concept</em></strong></div>
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The true meaning of a win-win settlement is a negotiated
agreement where the agreement reached cannot be improved further by any
discussions. Win-Win does not mean absolute equal outcomes but
acceptable so each party walks away with perceived value. So your
outcome cannot be improved for your benefit, and similarly, the
agreement for the other party cannot be improved further for their
benefit either. By definition, there is no value left on the table and
all creative options have been thoroughly explored and exploited. It’s
what both parties can live with.</div>
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<strong><em>What does not constitute a win-win deal?</em></strong><br />
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<strong><em>Many people falsely delude themselves into believing they
have a win-win approach and settlement when they adopt many of the
strategies described below. However, if we put their agreement under our
microscope and look closer, they may have wasted their efforts.
Positional and tactical negotiators love less experienced negotiators
who do not fully understand win-win. Why? Inexperienced negotiators make
for easy targets to be shot down, simply due to their lack of
understanding of the win-win concept.</em></strong></div>
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What pitfalls can lead you, your company or team to miss the rich
rewards promised by a win-win settlement? (see 1-4). What should we then
focus on? (see 5-8).</div>
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<strong><em>1. Cookie-Cut Approach</em></strong><br />
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<strong><em>People are not the same, they are motivated differently.
We cannot approach each negotiation identically. It’s fine to have a
positive mindset going into the talks, but we must be realistic that we
do not get bogged down into ‘the end justifies the means’ mentality by
sacrificing resources or funds to get that agreement. I do not advocate a
win-win in all situations. Where win-win would be an inappropriate
commercial strategy to employ would include:</em></strong></div>
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(a) Hostile or die-hard positional negotiation counterparties who only look at you through win-lose lenses.<br />
(b) When you’re negotiating the purchase of a widely available commodity
type product or service that makes neither a strategic impact upon your
business, nor carries a large price tag.<br />
(c) For business negotiations – either there is no room to manoeuvre
(company policy) and/or one party has all the power or options. Neither
works.<br />
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<i style="font-weight: bold;">2. Compromise</i><br />
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Many negotiators falsely believe that compromise is a
positive approach to gain a win-win deal. This is plainly incorrect. If
you look at the definition of the word ‘compromise’, it means ‘A
settlement of a dispute in which two or more parties agree to accept
something less than they originally wanted.’ If one or both parties
agree to lower their aspirations, this is hardly a win-win outcome, is
it? Over-ambition is due to lack of experience or lack of research on
the product/service /party.</div>
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<i style="font-weight: bold;">3. The Relationship</i><br />
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Possessing the desire to create a durable relationship in a
negotiation is admirable, but it does not guarantee that you will walk
out of the negotiation with a win-win agreement to hand. Mutual
relationships are the ideal, with each side creating value for their
organisation and for the other’s organisation. If you find that you’re
getting the short end of the stick over and over again, then you’ll need
to think through how the other side perceives you, and the negotiation
frame that’s been set. Almost everyone agrees that it’s important to
have good relations with your business partners, but few will agree with
what “good” really means. Its best you explore this separately as a
company and or team, as assumptions are dangerous.</div>
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<i style="font-weight: bold;">4. Take Your Time</i><br />
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Many negotiators are under the impression that if they
take extra time to negotiate they are more likely to achieve a win-win
settlement. The truth is that many studies on this very subject have
revealed that extra time does not make much difference to the quality of
the negotiated agreements.</div>
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“During a negotiation, it would be wise not to take
anything personally. If you leave personalities out of it, you will be
able to see opportunities more objectively.” – Brian Koslow<br />
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<em><b>5. Ask Open Directive Questions</b></em><br />
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<em>When we enter a negotiations prepared, we need to know the
other parties’ intentions, interests, timeline and priorities. It is a
sad truth that in reality, many negotiators do not ask questions to gain
a better understanding of the underlying ambitions that lie beneath the
other party’s position.</em></div>
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We need to determine whether our goals can be connected to the business
goals of the other party. The more we know about their aims, the more we
will be able to put together settlement package that better addresses
the business goals and priorities of both parties. When we know what’s
important to the other party, we can build a beneficial and productive
agreement that ensures the concerns of both parties have been taken on
board.</div>
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<i style="font-weight: bold;">6. Play Fair</i><br />
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What do we tell them about our goals and interests?
Reciprocation is essential. We have to tell them about our goals and
interests so they may better understand how they might not only meet
their needs, but ours as well. Best we begin at outset with setting the
frame of a cooperative mood to increase mutual interaction. Only then
should we progress into fact-finding and option generation. Our
counterparts will usually mirror our behaviour, the virtuous and less
than virtuous.</div>
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<strong>“ We cannot negotiate with those who say, “What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is negotiable.” <a href="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/johnfkennedy.jpg"><img alt="" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-519" height="80" src="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/johnfkennedy.jpg" title="johnfkennedy" width="80" /></a>– John F. Kennedy</strong></div>
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If we start by openly offering information, they will normally
reciprocate in kind. Our initiating the volunteering of goals and
interests does not necessarily put us at a strategic disadvantage.
Provided we set the frame of reciprocation and gain agreement at the
outset, and provided we don’t put all our cards on the table.
Reciprocation will prevail. If the other side refuses to reciprocate at
any point, and refuses to give a valid reason, this should be our red
flag to stop. It’s a bad idea to reveal your BATNA at the outset.</div>
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<strong><em>7. Pesent Multiple Options<br />
</em></strong>The best win-win agreements often spring from presenting
multiple offers rather than a single, lone offer or proposal. The reason
is that a single offer or proposal often has an anchoring effect.
Multiple offers tend to stimulate communication. Multiple offers will
often prompt or nudge our counterpart into providing vital information
about their objectives and the true nature of their business ambitions.
Negotiating will be more energetic and productive because several
options will likely enhance the possibility of finding even more
creative solutions than would otherwise have been possible.<br />
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<strong><em>8. Third Party Involvement<br />
</em></strong>Another innovative strategy to maximize your resources
effectively is to use a neutral third party to help both parties tease
out all goals and interests. In addition, you can ask this third party
to suggest an agreement, or for ways in which to improve your existing
agreement. Each side should of course have the option to veto the third
party’s proposals if they uncover better alternatives. A third party
proposal can bring a number of benefits:<br />
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Both parties can safely share more sensitive information. Since
information is the building blocks required for creative alternatives,
this in itself can open doors that were previously not seen.<br />
Trust is fostered under the experienced third independent party’s
direction. Often parties don’t share suspicions openly with each other.
This format of negotiation is conducive to sharing doubts. With a third
party looking out for both sides’ interests, it prevents one sided gains
and fosters a free thinking creative process, and reduces risks.<br />
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We need to appreciate that not just any agreement leads to a win-win
scenario or outcome in our negotiations. Time constraints affect how
long and far we can explore. Attitudes, positions and skills set
invisible boundaries that constrain what we see as possible. Win-win
deals are more likely when set up correctly through effective use of
framing, research and building relationships. Ultimately, it’s essential
that we remember the end objective is to reach an agreement that both
parties can walk away without their tail between their legs!<br />
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<strong><em>“The most important trip you could ever take in life, is
learning what is important to them and meeting them somewhere in the
middle.” – Leslie Choudhury</em></strong><br />
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Leslie Choudhury has been a GM or CEO of 4 different corporate
companies in 4 different countries. He has won countless awards for his
ability to motivate, influence and inspire changes in staff mentality
and results. His awards include: Westin Business Innovation award, the
President’s/CEO’s award for running the best Sales team in the world for
Sheraton Hotels, Best Service Company of the year award in Singapore,
and “EBIT & ME Personality Award for Asia & Pacific. Choudhury
holds a BBA from the University of Hawaii, Manoa, USA and is certified
in NLP & Directive Communication psychology, recognized by the
American Institute of Business Psychology, the only person in Asia
awarded with ‘CITE’ status; and the author of two self-help books –
‘Once Upon A Time’ series. Voted as the world’s number 6 Communication
Guru by Gurus International. Leslie is the CEO of Dreamz Image
International and Director for Directive Communication International (
ASIA) Pte Ltd. For more info see <strong><em>www.lesliechoudhury.com</em></strong></div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-6710822444707928782011-02-17T01:48:00.000-08:002013-10-26T01:48:33.509-07:00We are Born to Succeed !!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7y1CHb_Fq4odoKDPEaqDau4SpNO68lZ6Y7ubvoFSORseA1lkuX2Tvk-DSxFS0csJoAjU1t3_yqAZGPgZuZZZCWcazy1YZtwZM-ZxXSVW4VaN1BKeJ0vBuzji1Mu_w-ZLsSEcCVUakUUs/s1600/zac-191x300.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7y1CHb_Fq4odoKDPEaqDau4SpNO68lZ6Y7ubvoFSORseA1lkuX2Tvk-DSxFS0csJoAjU1t3_yqAZGPgZuZZZCWcazy1YZtwZM-ZxXSVW4VaN1BKeJ0vBuzji1Mu_w-ZLsSEcCVUakUUs/s1600/zac-191x300.jpg" /></a><strong>We were born to succeed</strong><br />
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<em><strong>“Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.” – Dr. Joyce Brothers</strong></em><br />
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We were born with all the tools to succeed and enjoy a wonderful life.<br />
We were born with all the potential to succeed, we can achieve any goal we want… or can we?<br />
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We may not think or believe that we can achieve our goals and have a better life.<br />
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When we were born we had no negative thoughts.<br />
No Limiting Beliefs.<br />
No self doubts.<br />
We could do anything.<br />
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<em><strong>“You can do anything you wish to do, have anything you wish to have, be anything you wish to be.” – Robert Collier</strong></em><br />
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Sometimes we need to observe and listen to children. They are
irrepressible. They at an early age think they can do anything, they
feel they can conquer the world. My son Zackery, when asked what does he
want to become says, ” An Actor, A Movie Producer, A Director, An
Inventor ……” somehow I get the feeling the list keeps growing larger,
bigger, but all he sees is possibilities!</div>
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We however tend to see limitations, hurdles, prohibitions ….. we see
boundaries, problems, we prevent ourselves from moving forward even
before we start.<br />
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But on our journey through life, we stopped believing. We even sometimes stopped trying!<br />
We started to doubt ourselves.<br />
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We started to let negative thoughts fill our mind.<br />
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Maybe somebody told us that we can’t succeed or that life is hard and we believed them.</div>
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We started to develop limiting beliefs and you began to think we no longer have the potential to succeed.</div>
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We may even believe that we were not born to succeed, or worse, that we were born to suffer.</div>
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The truth is we still have all that potential, we’ve just burried it,
we’ve dismissed it and we’ve let negative thinking, limiting beliefs
and self doubt convince us that we can’t or won’t succeed.</div>
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So how do we unlock the potential that we were born with?<br />
How do we turn things around and succeed?<br />
Start by changing the way we see ourself, or changing what we think about ourself.<br />
If we feel that we can’t succeed, that we’ll only fail, and that no
matter what we do things won’t be better… then change this thought
pattern.<br />
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<strong><em>“</em></strong><a href="http://thinkexist.com/quotation/it_is_not_the_mountain_we_conquer_but_ourselves/10675.html"><strong><em>It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.</em></strong></a><strong><em>” – <strong><em><a href="http://thinkexist.com/quotes/edmund_hillary/">Edmund Hillary </a></em></strong></em></strong><br />
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Dismiss it.<br />
Don’t accept those thoughts.<br />
None of it, is true.<br />
No matter how bleak things may seem we can and will succeed because we were born to succeed.<br />
We need to tell ourselves, yes …..say it out loud:<br />
<br />
<strong>I was born to succeed</strong>.<br />
Say it again, only this time with a slight change:<br />
<br />
<strong>I am born to succeed.</strong><br />
We are born to succeed.<br />
When we think of past failures, or if we think we’ll only fail again,
change those thoughts. Think of the times we did succeed. Go back as
far as we have to.<br />
I want us all to do this right now, thibnk about the times we
succeeded, I do not care in what, or how far back we have to go. Think
about those times, see ourselves in that moment, how we looked, how we
felt, how we felt others saw us, felt about us.<br />
Our mind will tell us things like: <em>“Yeah but that was then, we can’t succeed now. </em><em><br />
<em>Who are you kidding. We can’t do this. There’s no way.” Stop this thinking and stop this right now!</em></em><br />
Change those thoughts.<br />
Let’s push our mind to find ways to succeed.<br />
Tell ourself, this time I’m doing things differently.<br />
Give ourself reasons to succeed.<br />
Create affirmations that will help us succeed.<br />
The only reason our mind comes up with these excuses for not succeeding is because that’s what it’s used to doing.<br />
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Over the years we’ve developed a pattern of thinking and a set of
beliefs that have created our current outlook and our current life.<br />
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If we keep the same thought patterns and the same beliefs we’ll
always have the same life – I guarantee it. Nothing will change… and
that’s not good enough! Is it ?<br />
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<em><strong>“The person who gets the farthest is generally the one
who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from
shore.” – -Dale Carnegie</strong></em><br />
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But if we change our thoughts, change our beliefs, change our outlook
we will change our lives – and I can guarantee that as well. I am
living proof of that. Let me say this as simply as I can; “If I can do
it, then anyone can!”<br />
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We need to understand, our subconscious follows our current thoughts and beliefs like a roadmap.<br />
If we think we’re going to fail or that life is difficult, then our
subconscious simply says: we expect failure, we therefore want failure,
and guess what we will have failure. Our subconscious will make sure we
get it.<br />
So if we change what’s in our subconscious, give it a new road map and we’ll get new results.<br />
But first we have to decide what that map, that path, that direction,
that trip is going to look like. We also have to know what we want,
then we can create the thoughts, beliefs, outlook and actions that will
help us succeed.<br />
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When we do that on a regular basis we’ll be living up to our full potential.<br />
We’ll begin succeeding because that’s what we were born to do.<br />
So don’t believe the naysayer in your head.<br />
Believe in yourself and your ability.<br />
We were born to succeed. You are born to succeed.<br />
You have all the ability to achieve your goals and live your dreams.<br />
Direct the power of your mind and subconscious mind to create the
happiness, success, wealth, relationships and life you want today. <strong>You have the power, the ability, it is your choice</strong>.<br />
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Nothing happens unless you take responsibility and make that choice,
take the steps and keep on that path and head in the direction called <strong>‘ SUCCESS.’</strong></div>
Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-15719184567644786162011-01-26T02:12:00.000-08:002013-10-26T02:12:40.442-07:00Measured By What You Do !!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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There was a farmer who sold a pound of butter to the baker. One day
the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he was getting a pound
and he found that he was not. This angered him and he took the farmer to
court.</div>
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The judge asked the farmer if he was using any measure. The farmer
replied, “ur Honor, I am poor. I don’t have a proper measure, but I do
have a scale.”</div>
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The judge asked, “Then how do you weigh the butter?”</div>
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The farmer replied “Your Honor, long before the baker started buying
butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every
day when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him
the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it is the baker.”</div>
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What is the point of the story? We get back in life what we give to others.<br />
Whenever you take an action, ask yourself this question – Am I giving fair value for the wages or money I hope to make ?<br />
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Honesty and dishonesty become a habit. Some people practice
dishonesty and can lie with a straight face. Others lie so much that
they don’t even know what the truth is anymore. But who are they
deceiving ? Themselves – more than anyone else.</div>
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I love the line in Batman which always sticks in my head, ” It is what I do that defines me !!!”</div>
Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-6211911238918659802011-01-26T02:02:00.000-08:002013-10-26T02:03:25.875-07:00Leadership with a Vision<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">VISIONARY LEADERSHIP</span></strong><br />
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Visionary leaders are the builders of a new dawn, using imagination,
insight, and boldness. They present a challenge that calls forth the
best in people and brings them together around a shared sense of
purpose. They work with the power of intentionality and help people find
a higher purpose. Their eyes are on the horizon; they are political,
business, social innovators and change agents, seeing the big picture
and thinking strategically.</div>
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A visionary may dream wonderful visions of the future and articulate
them with great inspiration. A visionary leader is good with words but
also with actions. It requires heart-felt commitment.</div>
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A visionary leader is effective in manifesting his or her vision
because s/he creates specific, achievable goals, initiates action and
enlists the participation of others.</div>
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It requires core values, clear vision, empowering relationships, and innovative action. </div>
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<strong>CLEAR INSPIRATIONAL VISION</strong><strong><br /></strong><br />
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<strong>Visionaries who are successful at manifesting their visions
base their leadership on an inspirational, positive picture of the
future, as well as a clear sense of direction as to how to get there.
Vision is a field that brings energy into form. Effective leaders
broadcast a coherent message by themselves embodying their vision. </strong></div>
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<img alt="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/nelson1.bmp" class="decoded" src="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/nelson1.bmp" style="text-align: left;" />Nelson Mandela clearly held a positive vision of a racially
harmonious South Africa during his 28 years in jail and helped bring it
into reality peacefully– to the amazement of the world. I urge you to
see the movie ‘Invictus’.</div>
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<strong>“I dream of an Africa which is in peace with itself.</strong><strong> “<br />
</strong> <a href="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/nelson.bmp"></a> <a href="http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/n/nelsonmand127746.html">Nelson Mandela</a><br />
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<a href="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/martin-king.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-491" height="50" src="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/martin-king.jpg" title="martin-king" width="75" /></a>The best visionary leaders move energy to a higher level by offering a
clear vision of what is possible. They inspire people to be better than
they already are. This was the power of Martin Luther King’s <strong>“I have a dream”</strong> speech. The creative power of inspired words can sound a certain inner note that people recognize and respond to.<br />
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Visionary leaders transmit energy to people, giving them confidence in
achieving the vision. Television host Oprah Winfrey helps her guests
believe in themselves and work to create a better world. She is the
number one Talk Show host!<br />
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<img alt="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/obama_inauguration_1243208c.jpg" class="decoded" src="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/obama_inauguration_1243208c.jpg" /><br />
President Obama, won the elections with three words, <strong>“Yes We Can”,</strong> giving people ‘Hope’ and wanting to see ‘Change’ happen.<br />
When we look around us here in Singapore, the world sees clearly the
vision of leaders like Goh Keng Swee and Lee Kwan Yew. A small country
making big waves due to a clear and powerful vision. On the business
front, Kwek Leng Beng from CDL, Ho KwonPing of Banyan Tree, the late
Ng Teng Fong of Far East, and J.Y. Pillay for Singapore Airlines have
all made their mark due to a vision that paved the way forward. <strong>“ Where there is no vision the people perish.” – The Bible</strong><br />
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Body Shop founder, Anita Roddick’s vision addressed health and
environmental problems, as well as poverty in the Third World, through
the innovative strategies she designed for her hugely successful
products and stores. Products are made of non-polluting ingredients and
stores were opened in poor neighbourhoods to provide employment and
return profit to the community.<br />
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Many of us avoid the responsibility of visionary leadership primarily
because we are too scared of criticism or failure. Today, as we enter
the Third Millennium, new visionary leaders are emerging. Will you rise
to the need and challenge?<br />
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<strong><em>If you want one year of prosperity, grow the business contributing units,<br />
If you want ten years of prosperity, </em></strong><strong><em>grow the contributing territories,<br />
If you want one hundred years of prosperity, grow the contributing people. </em></strong><br />
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Leslie Choudhury<br />
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has been the CEO of 4 different corporate companies in 4 different
countries. His ability to motivate, influence and inspire change in
staff mentality and results won awards like: Westin’s Business
Innovation award, the President’s/CEO’s award for running the best Sales
team in the world for Sheraton Hotels, Best Service Company of the year
award in Singapore, and “EBIT & ME Personality Award for Asia &
Pacific”. Choudhury holds a BBA from the University of Hawaii, Manoa,
the only person in Asia awarded with ‘CITE’ status. Author of self-help
books series called ‘Once Upon A Time’ . Voted as the world’s number 6
Communication Guru by Gurus International, in the Global Who’s Who
Directory recognizing his Training & Speaking prowess. Leslie is the
CEO of Dreamz Image International and Director for Directive
Communication International ( ASIA) Pte Ltd. For more info see <strong><a href="http://www.lesliechoudhury.com/">www.lesliechoudhury.com</a></strong></div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-19198412657760110142011-01-20T02:14:00.000-08:002013-10-26T02:15:01.024-07:00DON’T JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVERS !!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
DON’T JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVERS !!! REALLY ?<br />
– www.lesliechoudhury.com<br />
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Studies show attractive students get more attention and higher
evaluations from their teachers, good-looking patients get more
personalized care from their doctors, and handsome criminals receive
lighter sentences than less attractive convicts. But how much do looks
matter at work?</div>
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The ugly truth, according to economics professors Daniel Hamermesh of
the University of Texas and Jeff Biddle of Michigan State University,
is that plain people earn 5 to 10 percent less than people of average
looks, who in turn earn 3 to 8 percent less than those deemed
good-looking.</div>
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These findings concur with other research that shows the penalty for
being homely exceeds the premium for beauty and that across all
occupations; the effects are greater for men than women.</div>
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A London Guildhall University survey of 11,000 33-year-olds found
that unattractive men earned 15 percent less than those deemed
attractive, while plain women earned 11 percent less than their prettier
counterparts. In their report “Beauty, Productivity and Discrimination:
Lawyers’, Looks and Lucre,” Hamermesh and Biddle found that the
probability of a male attorney attaining early partnership directly
correlates with how handsome he is.</div>
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Size matters, too. Now watch what you are thinking ! A study released
last year by two professors at the University of Florida and the
University of North Carolina found that tall people earn considerably
more money throughout their careers than their shorter coworkers, with
each inch adding about $789 a year in pay.<br />
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A survey of male graduates of the University of Pittsburgh found that
the tallest students’ average starting salary was 12 percent higher
than their shorter colleagues’. The London Guildhall study showed that
overweight women are more likely to be unemployed, and that those who
are working earn on average five percent less than their trimmer peers.</div>
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According to Dr. Gordon Patzer, who has spent over three decades
studying and writing about physical attractiveness, human beings are
hard-wired to respond more favorably to attractive people. Even studies
of babies show they will look more intently and longer at prettier
faces.</div>
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“Good-looking men and women are generally judged to be more talented,
kind, honest and intelligent than their less attractive counterparts,”
says Patzer. “Controlled studies show people go out of their way to help
attractive people – of the same and opposite sex – because they want to
be liked and accepted by good-looking people.”</div>
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This may not sound too pretty or encouraging to those of us who were
dealt a bad hand in the looks department. But don’t rush off to try out
for the next round of <em>Extreme Makeover</em> just yet. This is not what I am suggesting as cure.</div>
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There is more than meets the eye !<br />
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Despite what the research tells us, some of the world’s most
successful people have been ordinary looking at best, and you would
never mistake the faces in <em>Fortune</em> for the faces in <em>Esquire</em> or <em>Entertainment Weekly.</em>
Business legends are often of average height (Bill Gates is only at
5’9″, slightly shorter than me !) or even diminutive (Jack Welch, 5’8″,
and Tom Cruise at 5’7+”). What’s more, many folks who are lovely to
look at complain that they lose out on jobs because people assume they
are vacuous or “lightweights.” They suffer the stereo-typing of being
good-looking but nothing up there !</div>
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How does this reconcile with all the research? Hiring managers say it is <strong>the appearance of confidence</strong>
they find attractive, not the presence of physical beauty. And they
contend that attractiveness has more to do with how you carry yourself
and the energy you exude – rather than having perfect features or a
great physique. People whom have closed on interviews or sales pitches,
all exude confidence, energy, and present themselves well. Its what they
wear, how they wear it, how they walk it and yes which leads to how
they talk it !</div>
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According to Gordon Wainright author of <em>Teach Yourself Body Language</em>,
anyone can increase their attractiveness to others if they maintain
good eye contact, act upbeat, dress well (with a dash of color to their
wardrobe), and listen well. Wainright also stresses the importance of
posture and bearing and suggests that for one week you stand straight,
tuck in your stomach, hold your head high, and smile at those you meet.
Based on many such experiments, Wainwright predicts you will begin to be
treated with more warmth and respect and start attracting more people
to you.</div>
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Whatever it is , whether an interview, a presentation, a date,
people do judge a book by its covers……we are after all human……so with
this knowledge, walk that walk, talk that talk…..do it with style (your
own) , with confidence, and get the respect you rightly fully deserve.</div>
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I am living proof of this, I have always tried to dress for the
occasion, dress for the audience that I am presenting to and by God’s
grace have been very successful in all the opportunities presented to
me, be it an interview or closing a deal.</div>
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We all need to find someone to encourage. Of all the gifts you
possess truly one of the greatest is the ability to build up and help
another person to do the best they can, or be the best they can.</div>
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An interesting thing happens when you give of this special gift —
much in the same way a magnet works, you begin to pull into your life
people, opportunities and life experiences of a positive nature. I am
living proof of this.</div>
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To better understand this, consider the wise words which state
simply, yet profoundly: “You reap what you sow”. In short, what you put
out to the world makes its way back to you. My friends, if you’ll
concede that there’s truth in that wouldn’t it make sense to be
proactive when it comes to looking for ways to encourage others? I think
so! I will leave the sharing of this, to another blog soon. For now I
just want to focus on the power of encouragement.</div>
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I remember years ago, when I took part in a skit and took on the role
of the voice of God. I never appeared on stage, just a microphone
behind stage, whilst others played the scene Abraham sacrificing Isacc
on stage. The skit was hilarious, as we had a fat boy of 17 years
old playing the role of baby Isaac, which drew tremendous laughter from
the crowd. However at the end of the skit, a lady doctor named Nam Fong
made her way back stage to satisfy what she was curious about? She
wanted to know whom was the voice of God? On finding out it was me she
headed my direction and said, ” Leslie, God has given you a gift with
that voice, use it wisely and well !” I sheepishly thanked her but was
quite taken aback at her words.</div>
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Years down the road when I changed career paths and embarked on the
road to being a trainer and speaker, these words flooded my mind. They
were a source of such power and encouragement despite the fact it was
mentioned to me many many moons ago. As humans we remember both hurtful
and encouraging things said in the past like it was said yesterday.</div>
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Going forward begin to look at your life as though you are an artist
with the ability to paint on your canvas a magnificent masterpiece.
While this in itself is incredible — consider that you also have the
added advantage of literally being able to start a new work of art at
will.</div>
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In the moment you find yourself on a path which doesn’t serve you,
you can choose to course correct. You have the ability to succeed at
whatever you desire. Let go of the broken idea that it has to happen
overnight in order to be deemed a success.</div>
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Take joy in your achievement journey, knowing that as long as you
stay in the game, and allow yourself to learn the lessons which can be
gleaned from any challenges which may pop up along the way you will
reach your intended destination. When I first started speaking, I was
paid $50 an hour, then $75 then $100 but today I command a speaking fee
of $7,000 an hour. If you haven’t already please listen to a song by
Miley Cyrus called ‘The Climb’. </div>
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This song is my theme song for this year 2011. The song has the words
: ” I can almost see it, that dream I’m dreaming, But there’s a voice
inside my head saying you’ll never reach it “ W all have doubts, but
its moments like those where words of encouragement can sweep us up, as
they have for me. The song goes on with; ” There is always gonna be an
another mountain, I’m always gonna want to make it move , always gonna
be an uphill battle, sometime I’m gonna have to lose, ain’t about how
fast we get there, aint whats waiting on the other side……its the
Climb.” </div>
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Life is a journey, its a climb its sometimes pretty tough for you and
for me. What will make that journey that much easier, that much
sweeter, that much more energized is the power we get from
…’encouragement’. Remember encouragement is a 2 way street, starts with
us taking up opportunities to do so with others and like a boomarang it
will come right back at you.</div>
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You were made for greatness — see it, live it, be it. Be an
encouragement today and everyday with someone; with a willingness to let
your gifts and talents flow and Iassure you it will come right back at
you.</div>
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Late last year, I spoke in Mauritius at a Sales Conference with
several international speakers. The main draw speaker was not me, he was
a speaker from the USA with more than 12 books under his belt, many of
them best sellers with more than a million copies sold of each. He spoke
with authority but somehow somewhat down at people. He still got
applause. I spoke with the poeple, bared myself (not literally) and
tried to encourage them that if someone like me could make it then even
more so could of any of them! When the end of my final speech came, I
got a standing ovation, no other speaker got not even the main draw. It
brought tears to my eyes ! When you encourage people, it comes back ten
fold !!!</div>
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If we think about our own lives as being a journey on a bus, surrounded
by a great variety of people, all with particular positions on our bus
that relate to where they fit into our lives. Some are right there next
to us; some behind us; some in front of us… but all are important in
playing some role in how we are “positioned” in their lives, and they in
ours. Remember we always have a choice…sit, stand, whom next to, get
off the bus, get on another, stay silent, speak, engage, learn, follow,
lead, be influenced or to influence….the choice is almost always ours.</div>
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As I write this I am reminded of the movie “Speed” with Sandra
Bullock and Keanu Reeves – where they were all on a bus being controlled
by a maniac demanding a ransom. There are times when we do not have a
choice at least it may seem that way. The truth is our lives can be like
that; out of control, with someone else doing the driving. Do you want
that ? A fearful situation? Of course it is! Even in that scenario, did
Keanu simply decide to simply do everything the maniac was demanding, no
way Hosea, he was working on a plan….a plan to solve things, change the
situation, get control and not be controlled.</div>
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The brutal truth is that so many people are living-out that nightmare
bus-ride right now! Out of control – and don’t know what they can do
about it. Do you want to simply ride and see what happens ? Give in and
allow situations to rule you ? What can you do…more importantly what are
you willing to do ?</div>
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OK, now that you’ve got the scene in your mind. In order to get some
perspective on our own lives, sometimes we need to move to the back seat
of the bus for a while, and become the observer of what is really going
on.</div>
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Sometimes you need to ask the right questions, just as Keanu figured
out the maniac was observing them, watching their every move and
therefore knowing what to do. He had to change that situation so he got
help created a loop in the video feed to buy time, to execute a plan, to
change the situation and get back control.</div>
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We also need to observe who the most significant people are, and how
they are positioned in our lives. Keanu did not do this alone, he got
help. We all need people in our lives whom contribute in different ways.
Some give us Love & Belonging, some Significance & Recognition
and yet others provide us with the stimulus of Challenge & Growth.
We must understand our emotional drivers and use that knowledge to help
move us in the right direction and speed. Whom we hang with will affect
us, either positively or negatively.</div>
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Are they standing over us because they feel superior? Are they moving
forward in their own lives and leaving us behind? Are they falling
behind us because we’ve chosen to move forward? Where are you at in your
life ? Whom have you allowed to influence you ? Are you influencing
others ? Are you simply going for a ride or do you know where your bus
is going and how you are going to get to your destination ?</div>
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So now we are faced with an important question, “Who’s driving your bus”?<br />
Is it someone from your past who has dominated you and what you do, even
though they may not still be present in your life now? Are they taking
you where you want to go? Do you feel like you would like to the bus to
stop and let you off? Now here comes the challenge…</div>
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From this rear seat of observation, we need to start to move closer
to the driver’s seat. You cannot really influence the driver from the
back seat. It doesn’t matter how long this takes, and it doesn’t matter
how much we are challenged by the people who may be trying to block our
progress forward. We have to do this for ourselves… starting right now!
So get off the back seat and start moving forward !</div>
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Our goal is to be in the driver’s seat of our own lives! Do you know
what drives you ? Do you know your emotional drivers ? I will get into
this in a another article for now, just know it’s important to be in the
driver’s seat.<br />
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It is inevitable that we are going to be challenged, and that’s when we need courage!<br />
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Yes – we will all take different lengths of time to move forward… that’s when we need persistence, and patience with ourselves!<br />
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Most certainly we will feel daunted at times by this process… that’s when we need to have determination!<br />
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We are going to have to ask people to vacate their seats (which can
possibly be their dominant positions in our lives) so that we can move
forward towards that front seat we wish to occupy. We are going to have
to sit in the middle of the bus at times while we learn to muster more
courage and determination to move forward again. This is all part of the
process, so stick with it because this is all for YOU! If you don’t
help yourself who will ?</div>
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During this process of moving forward we must remain conscious of
where the bus is now, and think about where we really want to take it
once we’re up front, and in control. Pointless to get into the driver’s
seat and not know where to go and the best route to get you there.</div>
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One very important point! At no stage in this process do we tread on
someone if they get in our way (as we move forward), simply step around
them and move on.<br />
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OK – you’ve made it! You have asked the driver to step aside and let
you have your turn, and now you’re in the seat. It’s all up to you now!<br />
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If you’re not too sure of what to do and how to do it, just stop and
park for a while. It doesn’t matter what you do and how long it takes,
because this is your game now – so play it your way!<br />
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Get crystal clear on where you choose to take your bus now, and very
clear on who you wish to accompany you on this new journey. The rest is a
process of trusting your own judgment and decisions. You will make
modifications or alterations to your plan along the way….this is normal.
This will also include the people that will help you get there….they do
not necessarily stay the same…know what, when where and also whom….this
will get you to your destination.</div>
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I wish the very best for the journey ahead… and always remember –
“What other people do or say is their responsibility or as one of my
dear associates likes to say it’s their stuff; how we react is our stuff
, yes, is our responsibility.” Yes it’s up to “moi”!</div>
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-47879089700818391332010-12-22T02:58:00.000-08:002013-10-26T02:59:19.436-07:00Principles for Success<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
People are not born successful.<br />
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<span id="goog_1156012566"></span><span id="goog_1156012567"></span>They work hard and are extremely focused
and persistent. Successful people take calculated risks and solve their
problems creatively. Some of the characteristics that most successful
people have in common are:<br />
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<li> Emotional Intelligence.<a href="http://lesliechoudhury.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/312338.jpg"></a></li>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkwFJ-Jr-xuBUsG9TdBnfDd2gyBdX_IjrC7Oty8h-wD4eJtvZ5B74mYWDZNBiE1mBldCCea4IlCQfpcrtW199wVv75b3ETrlids2z12vHIql_Wv-OIwPm1aFFWjCqbWt9Sa4pVnDVO5xU/s1600/312338.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkwFJ-Jr-xuBUsG9TdBnfDd2gyBdX_IjrC7Oty8h-wD4eJtvZ5B74mYWDZNBiE1mBldCCea4IlCQfpcrtW199wVv75b3ETrlids2z12vHIql_Wv-OIwPm1aFFWjCqbWt9Sa4pVnDVO5xU/s1600/312338.jpg" /></a> Most great people are somewhat intelligent–but not in every
subject. They specialize. They simply have well-develop intelligence in
the areas or fields they have chosen to pursue. It is said that IQ will
get you hired in a job, but EQ will either get you promoted or the lack
of it will get you fired! When you can learn to respond with both your
heart and head then it is advantage. Great people know what makes
another ‘tick’ both in the head and in their heart!</div>
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2. Practice. <br />
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particular talents. Mistakes must be made, new solutions discovered, and
difficult situations endured. Nobody great , in sports or business got
good without practice! David Beckham in his deadly free-kicks, or Tiger
Woods (see picture) in his record Golf PGA wins, Donald Trump in his
real estate success, or even Tony Robbins in his motivation business!
Nothing great can be achieved without practice. </div>
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3. Leadership.<br />
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Many successful people have a tremendous amount of hands-on
experience dealing with people or structuring an organization. The bible
says “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” Today in order to
achieve success, we must be willing to lead, to take leadership, to
share your vision and get people behind you, your idea, your product
and your service.</div>
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4. Energy.<br />
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They’re very active and involved in their particular work. Their high
activity levels spring partly from tremendous enthusiasm and excitement
for the things they are doing. ‘Enthusiasm begets Enthusiasm!’ No one
achieves success by dragging their feet across the finish line. If we
want to achieve success we must inspire others to be as interested, as
energetic, as enthused as we are. People are swayed by another’s energy
and enthusiasm.</div>
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5. Concentration or Focus.</div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGtOOnO6wPL9PcdefPT7CWZAnE8mzFv3p704iA2BLGe82f-r74ecx4Rg95cO-iaCOvsnVcLDF4J0qMFQx_LCCav2m7SoiVHPo7au82Fj5Axq12BzCDeNDbb6ocbb4fe1vN-XUU8BW1eVU/s1600/steve_job01-189x300.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGtOOnO6wPL9PcdefPT7CWZAnE8mzFv3p704iA2BLGe82f-r74ecx4Rg95cO-iaCOvsnVcLDF4J0qMFQx_LCCav2m7SoiVHPo7au82Fj5Axq12BzCDeNDbb6ocbb4fe1vN-XUU8BW1eVU/s1600/steve_job01-189x300.jpg" /></a>Their work really excites them–so much so that they become unaware of
everything else. Look at Roger Federer in tennis, Steve Jobs in Apple,
they get so stuck in what they want to achieve, so focussed on
the outcome that they achieve their goals. </div>
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6. Determination.<br />
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They develop senses of destiny. They believe that they have major
purposes. They can’t imagine themselves failing. When they suffer
setbacks, they view them as part of the learning process on the road to
greatness.</div>
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7. Survival Skills.<br />
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Many have suffered traumatic experiences early in life such as
sickness, loneliness, or poverty. Such experiences helped them develop
their robustness and persistence. People who can’t cope with failure are
not likely to succeed. Donald Trump failed many times as did many, many
others. Falling down is common, I have and so have you. What matters
most is picking yourself up and finding a new way to survive and
succeed!</div>
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9. Letting experience teach them.</div>
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They learn from life’s experiences by making a conscious effort to do
so. Many people get caught up in what or who is right or wrong instead
of looking at the lesson that can be learned from the experience. And
life is full of lessons. From the time we come out of the womb to the
day we die, we are learning what life has to offer us, lesson after
lesson. The key is to take the experiences-those everyday occurrences in
life-and use them to change and grow. That’s what life is all
really-change. The only real constant in this life is that things and
people change. Inspired by experience, change is all around. </div>
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We can all benefit by watching successful people. But the knowledge
that each of us has the potential to be successful should be foremost in
our minds as we proceed in life. Each of us has a unique ability or
talent that can be developed. Believe in yourself and know yourself.
These two qualities serve as a foundation for the other characteristics
great people exhibit.
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Start Today ….Know Yourself…. Believe in Yourself !<br />
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See It, Be It, Live It !!!<br />
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-68759976317829251672010-12-15T02:46:00.000-08:002013-10-26T02:47:06.851-07:00Choose Greatness !!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Take the following statement to heart, and carry it with you always…<br />
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“Trust that life has an amazing way of filling in the details for the
person who has the courage to get started in the direction of their
dreams.”<br />
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When I really grasped the above statement, to the point that I began
to try and truly live my life in this way, I began to see a big
difference. Really BIG.<br />
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In the work I do, speaking, teaching and inspiring people on
responsibility & their potential — I’ve seen time and time again,
people held hostage, stuck in inaction because they couldn’t move past
the idea that they had the potential, had to be guaranteed success
before getting started, and two, had to have every single little detail
all nailed down in their own mind before beginning in the first place.</div>
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Being a planner is fine, it’s smart in fact. That said, making the
mistake of waiting to have every single detail figured out just right
before beginning is often a recipe for unrealized hopes and dreams.</div>
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The reason that’s true is because the pursuit of one’s endeavours is a
moving target. In fact in many cases one finds that it requires of us
the ability to move and adjust as new challenges appear. It’s part of
the very process which goes into shaping us and teaching us the needed
skills which allow us to become the type of person who is worthy of the
goals we so strongly desire.</div>
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So while it’s good to plan, and follow your plan… don’t make the
mistake of never getting started in the first place. When you find
yourself in a place which requires some adjusting, embrace it, and
accept that it’s part of the process. Course correct and get back to
taking whatever actions you have identified that will get you to where
you want to be. Be nimble when your success journey requires you to do
so.</div>
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Keep in mind the old truth which says, “life is but a journey.” It’s
true, and like any worthwhile journey there will be moments where you
need to veer from the path you thought was required of you. You may very
well have uncomfortable moments from time to time. You will most likely
experience feelings of doubt at some point. Fear not. Stay the course.</div>
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Whenever necessary, reach out and learn from those people and
resources who can help you acquire whatever particular skill-set you
need in order to move past whatever challenge may pop up, and continue
moving right along where you left off.</div>
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Make persistence your ally and you will look back with pride as you
recount the many achievements you’ve experienced in life. Remember the
simple truth… You’ve got to be in it to win it!<br />
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Each and everyday embrace and honour the greatness inside you by
moving forward on the path you have chosen. You’re an artist, and your
life is the canvas upon which you can paint whatever you wish.<br />
Remember…<br />
It’s your life, Choose Your Path.<br />
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-57495355336391924902010-11-26T03:10:00.000-08:002013-10-26T03:10:53.685-07:00Attitude – What’s Yours?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Jerry is the kind of guy you love to hate.<br />
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He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say.
When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were
any better, I would be twins!” He was a unique manager because he had
several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to
restaurant.</div>
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The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He
was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was
there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the
situation.</div>
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Seeing this style really made me curious. So, one day, I went up to Jerry and told him, “I don’t get it!”<br />
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“You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?”
Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you
have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can
choose to be in a bad mood.”<br />
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“I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I
can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to
learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose
to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of
life. I choose the positive side of life.”</div>
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“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested. “Yes, it is,” Jerry
said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every
situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You
choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood
or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”<br />
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I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business.<br />
We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.<br />
Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never
supposed to do in a<br />
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restaurant business: he left the back door open one
morning and was held up at gun point by three armed robbers.<br />
<br />
While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness,
slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily,
Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma
center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was
released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his
body.<br />
<br />
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he
was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my
scars?” I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone
through his mind as the robbery took place.<br />
<br />
“The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked
the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I
remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could
choose to die. I chose to live.”<br />
<br />
“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked. Jerry
continued, “… Well, the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I
was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the
expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really
scared. In their eyes, I read ‘he’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take
action.”<br />
<br />
” What did you do?” I asked.<br />
<br />
“Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said
Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes,’ I replied. The
doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a
deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’<br />
<br />
Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.’”<br />
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his
amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice
to live fully.<br />
<br />
Attitude, after all, is everything!<br />
<br />
BooYaa !!!<br />
Leslie Choudhury – Int’l Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Author<br />
Serious Fun for Serious Business<br />
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Leslie Choudhuryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02941764494934660610noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966418954244253256.post-71215640499614506772010-11-25T03:06:00.000-08:002013-10-26T03:06:52.510-07:00Burnt Scones – Gratitude & Acceptance !<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Mom liked to make scones for tea every now and then. And I remember
one time in particular when she had made scones on a saturday afternoon.
That afternoon, mom placed a plate of scones which were extremely
burnt in front of dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed<br />
.<br />
All dad did was reach for his scones, smiled at mom and asked me how
my week was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I
do remember watching him smear butter and strawberry jam on that scone
and ate every bite.<br />
<br />
When I got up from the table, I remember hearing mom apologizing to
dad for burning the scones. And I’ll never forget what he said: Darling,
I love burnt scones.<br />
<br />
Later that night, I went to kiss Dad good night and asked him if he
really liked his scones burnt. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your
Mom puts in hard work everyday running this house and all you children
and she’s rarely appreciated – a little burnt scone never hurt anyone!”<br />
<br />
You know, life is full of imperfect things…..and imperfect people.
I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and
anniversaries just like everyone else.<br />
<br />
What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each
others’ faults – and choosing to celebrate each others differences – is
one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and
lasting relationship.<br />
<br />
Because in the end, you are the master of your own life, to be happy or unhappy, to be positive or negative.<br />
<br />
It’s up to “Moi”.<br />
<br />
We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is
the base of any relationship , be it a husband-wife or parent-child or
friendship.<br />
<br />
Don’t put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket – keep it in your own.<br />
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Yes it’s up to “Moi”, how many times do I have to remind you!<br />
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So please pass me a scone</div>
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